Am I overreacting?

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Am I overreacting? We bought sd a karaoke machine for Christmas amongst many other lovely things and because I had a go on it and was having fun (after they were all finished with it) she said to my husband later that she thought I'd bought it more for myself. I feel hurt by this as all I am ever doing is putting her and my other dc first. I have a special birthday party arranged for her, get her fav foods in for when she is here, make her own room special and girly. I just feel like I am a thoughtful stepmum but it's as if I can't even just enjoy myself like her dad or mum or anyone else would as if it seeming like I am the mean step mum figure. I feel as a consequence like when she is here I am really starting to stay out the way.

IMO yes, you're overreacting.

Overreacting I'd say.

SD was being rude. You are not being u to feel hurt by that. She might not have meant to hurt you but there was no need for it, everyone should be able to have fun at Christmas

And how did you find out she had said this? Did your DP tell you? How did he react when she said it? These things are important. Don't let it get to you, you sound like someone who is doing her best and you can afford to give yourself a bit of a break.

I think it depends how she said it. We often say that sort of thing lightheartedly to each other. A kareoke machine is surely something to enjoy together.
So yes I think you're overreacting unless she was really acting like a spoilt brat and complaining she'd not had enough presents.

I think it's completely normal to be hurt by a comment like that from anyone.
My step kids can be pretty thoughtless with their comments sometimes but I ignore them or tell them off if it's very rude. Most of the time they are good kids so i don't let it bother me. I suggest you just ignore it and don't hide away for fear of a hurtful comment and say something if it's upset you. I'm sure she would say something if someone upset her.

I think you need to develop a thicker skin!
It was a bit rude of her and insensitive and I can see why you were a bit hurt by it but its really not the end of the world!
I'm interested to know how you found out and what was said to her after the comment though? Sounds like your DH is being insensitive too - why tell you something like that. I hope he told her not to be ungrateful.