Sorry yes ds is also p son
Not worse if dd was alone with him but she is tiny, 3 months old and if she had she would have to be medically examined. I thought I was so careful, I've been here before 
This is why my oldest dd was taken away because I struggled to cope with the fact she's been abused despite me being mega funny about who I had round my kids, it turned out one person I trusted, my brother, was abusing her.
I must be a really shit parent - dss mum is sending me some vile messages
The sleeping arrangements here aren't ideal, dd1 returned home and needed her own room, ds1 is 16 and shares with ds2, normally he's away weekends so dss sleeps in his bed and dsd used to sleep in the bottom on her own, she doesn't come any more, ds stopped co sleeping not long ago I was so fucking pleased he was going in his own bed now this happens the poor little mite
Basically dss mum said she was going to call the police so I was ok with that, she's worried that the kids are displaying overly sexual behaviour (this is where I drip feed sorry) they lived with their aunt and p - there were teenagers there dnw and dnc, p says even though dnc got pregnant at an early age ie before 16 that nothing was happening in front of the dsc however I'm not so sure and told their mum so, she also says that they have told her they've heard and seen dnc and dnw (niece an nephew) with their respective girlfriends and boyfriends
I fin that disgusting but it's not my children or my house so I didn't have a say. When they went back to their mums IMO it was the best thing for them, it happened in the wrong way though and left dss a bit up in the air though we thought he had settled by now. P had never really parented them properly, I often said he only wanted them as if they were possessions - I tried to guide him along the path of not smacking ect but by then he had basically passed the mantle to dsil and she did the day to day care.
Their mum didn't have them for eight years with a few one off visits in between, she had them one time and took lots of pictures, the discussion was that she would then use the pictures to be able to secure a house (she was in a flat) then not see the kids again, sadly this seems to have been the case, then a few years later one day they just didn't come back from contact.
I'm positive dss is confused, angry, god knows what else. He came here and behaved well but when at mums he would have flip outs where she would call us to come and get him though that was a last resort, she smashed his phone with a hammer last time and sells his possessions, when he misbehaves. He's been caught sending messages of a sexual nature to girls at school saying 'tell so and so that we've had sex' and on the pad he uses here the YouTube history has the sex scenes out of grand theft auto all over it. That game is banned here and he knows it, its vile - the worst thin is that he was watching them with ds and I never even thought to check, ds has a safety feature called kid zone so he can't watch those sort of things.
I'm sorry this is a really muddled post I'm really up in the air. Have told ds he is great for remembering our talks about good and bad touching and safety I am positive its just saved him from worse abuse as it stands its the fact that dss got ds to 'put his peepee in the lady book and having sexing with the ladies and it made my peepee sore' (ds exact words) I'm mortified and found two nuts/zoo type magazines under the bed have asked ds1 about them and he says he was given them but never read them, which I believe, he isn't even vaguely interested in girls more college, camping and getting covered in mud, says he read some articles in them then chucked them under the bed. Anyway so after doing this to my ds, dss apparently sat on the bed with the magazine and well you know the rest, sadly I don't think he meant to hurt ds, more get him involved so if his dad or I found out he could say well he did it too iyswim?
I'm also frightened for dss, I've watched him grow up even if I was told he wasn't mine on a regular basis, I still cared for him, my sbro couldn't work with children or attend college after the court case with dd1 and he was 12/13 when he began abusing and 15 nearly 16 when found out and court case began.
I know I shouldn't care but I don't want that life for dss - he's been through enough.
But I believe my son and am going to protect him and show him I don't accept anyone hurting him. He will miss dss so much, I feel sorry for p too what an awful position to be in, I'm torn up like you wouldn't believe and dss mum is now being a vile cow understandable I suppose she's scared for dss.
Oh one thing she's angry for is that she was calling my bluff by saying she was going to call the police, so is angry that I've called social services?!