am I unreasonable

[missgingernut]

Hi I'm new so be gentle. My oh has 2 dds with his ex wife 13 and 11. We have 2 dcs 2 and 6 months. I have 4 with my ex. This year mine are at their dads for Xmas as I had them last year, and they will be back for new year. His ex has decided that unless he goes and stays Xmas eve he won't see his dcs at xmas, last year she refused contact when she found out I was expecting. I have told no way on this earth I am happy with it as this year our lb understands more. She says I'm being selfish and unreasonable and he should put his girls first as they were their first. Am I really unreasonable to want him at home ?

So does the exes first dd come before her second dd? No? Why not...because all children are equal that's why! How ridiculous!! Yadnbu!!

Thanks for the replys. She's just an unreasonable woman has been since our eldest was born. What annoys me the most is the eldest did isn't my Hubby's child yet she still expects her to be put on a pedastool high above our dcs

Hers is an unreasonable argument - but you knew that already.

All children deserve the same respect regardless of who was born when.

I don't think you can pander this to behaviour, so I would not agree to his staying away on Xmas Eve.

You don't explain the travel logistics in your thread but could your partner spend early Xmas Eve with your younger children and see the older children for a few hours later on when the LO's have gone to bed?

Not ideal I know, but an option maybe?

It shudnt matter whether eldest is dps bio child,he obviously sees her as his daughter.everything else exw is very unresonable.