Okay, so basic back story to this is that DH's XW and himself used to own a house together, they parted relatively amicably leaving 2 children, then 7 and 2. XW is a lawyer and told hubby she would take care of paperwork regarding the house and removing his name from the mortgage. Fast forward to DH meeting me - a year and a half after they divorced and she was living with someone else already (within months of splitting). She goes a bit crazy, doesn't like me, tries to break me and DH up repeatedly despite the fact the kids love me and I've been nothing but respectful of her and the situation. Fast forward again, it's six months until DH and I get married and we get a phone call from the bank saying we owe them 3 months worth of mortgage payments because XW and new hubby have done a runner. Understandably we freak out, we thought we had no attachment to the house, lots of arguing goes on, we end up having to move into this house and leaving our rented property, we then find out that XW took out additional borrowing on the house and we're now in a TON of negative equity.
We were both angry for a long time but tried to make the best of the house, whilst XW stopped us seeing the children because she was mad at us for living there! It all smoothed over when she had another baby and she started playing nice, and a year and a half later I had my first baby too.
Now, my DH's nan has left us a house and we are in a position where we can buy it and he can free himself from XW financially, which is what we wanted all along. We told XW, she agreed we could sell it, we put the house up for sale, found a buyer - we're having to pay 3.5 grand to get rid of the place against the borrowing she took out but we're happy to pay it, we just want to be free of it. Anyway she began holding paperwork and saying she needed to be sure that the mortgage people weren't going to come chasing her for money (she's afraid we'll do to her what she did to us!), so hubby keeps having to go over there and sign document she drafts claiming that he will pay for it all, blah blah blah, lately she claimed she didn't receive some paperwork but then "found" it after DH and solicitors started harassing her.
Now TONIGHT we get a call from DSD, who basically said she does t want to move and that we haven't considered her feelings in the whole situation - you could pretty much hear XW in the background listening, she must have been because DSD called from the home phone. DSD seems upset because she wont have her own bedroom in the new house - but she doesnt have her own room in this house either, she shares with the baby, we cant afford 4 bedroom places! After talking with DSD, DH text ger to say that it was possible she could have the little room and DSS share with my DS, but whichever way you look at it, someone will be sharing. I just know she's stirring up trouble and planting seeds to make this difficult for us, and I am really, REALLY worked up about the whole situation. I hate the thought that DSD might be feeling unloved by us because I adore her, I think of her like a true daughter and often wished she was my own. When the new baby came along she was so excited and happy to be sharing a room, she loves babies, this just seems so out of character for her.
I don't know what to do but I am so worked up I can't sleep. Please someone give me advice or tell me they've survived something similar, I am at the end of my tether (I have just been prescribed anti anxiety medication and this isn't helping!!!)