My wonderful exDP(sarcastic tone) is now showing his true colours...

[louby44]

He is an idiot. A pathetic, bitter, nasty bully. I cannot believe how blind I have been. He's been away with work since Sunday - so now the fun begins!

He has told me he is only paying a third of the bills (the things my 2 DS uses gas/electric/food/ water) he says 'why should I pay for your kids'. He is vile. I am so ashamed that I have allowed me kids to live in the same house as this man.

He has a heavily carved table that we have in our lounge, I've never liked it, it's not my taste but of course I've never said that to him...until now.

He has just dragged the table into the den (which he has now taken over) muttering...'seeing as though you've hated it for 5 years'.

We've had the house valued today - he hasn't asked me anything about it yet....

Just remember louby,once the house is sold u wont have to see or speak to the miserable sod again:-)..

Stay strong louby.

Keep reminding yourself how much better your kids lives will be.

From you love him and it's not easy to leave him to he's vile, pathetic and an idiot, in a week? I know your hurting and not responsible for his behaviour, but what we say about someone reflects on our own self too. Anyway whatever your next steps wishing you and your kids well.

Cappy, I don't think the OP needed that really, do you?

Louby, ignore, get on with getting the house on the market. Have you made alternative plans for Christmas? I hope so!

Sorry to here this louby, I didn't realise you had split xx

I do still love him, I miss him. I wonder where he is and what he's up to. But he is turning into a nasty piece of work.

My heart is broken, the future we had planned is not going to happen.

I didn't realise you'd split up. What's the plan ? Is he moving out ? You will be so much happier without him.

No neither of us can move out until we sell the house. We have spent the last week re-adjusting, moving stuff around so we can live here together until the house sells.

He is so angry, yet this is really what he wants. He hasn't been happy for a long time.

He used to tell me he dreaded coming home because of my DSs; he hates the sibling bickering and noise. DS10 who is particularly bubbly and exuberant used to wind him up. He told anyone who would listen that he was looking forward to when they hit 17,18 and would leave home. So hurtful, it was said in a jokey way but he meant it!

Various people have told him over the years (counsellor, friends) that he needed to make a relationship with my boys in order for ours to survive but I honestly think he couldn't be bothered - he was never interested. Then he wonders why they rebel and have no respect for him. Why respect someone who only ever says negative things to them?

Cappy what a horrible post! Really unhelpful.
Louby – I understand how you feel. You must have loved him to put up with it all for so long. He is obviously showing his true colours now because he knows he is losing you. All he is doing is making it easier for you to leave him.
You are doing the right thing and I hope you manage to have a great Christmas with your boys and look forward to a happier 2014 without him and all his crap in it
Cheers!