DSD has just started at a new school. She lives with us full time.
I am main carer as DH is at work.
Mum is very VERY unreliable.
In the last school they understood - sent copies of letters to her etc but knew that she was last on list for emergencies etc and we got the daily info texts, for obvious reasons.
I explained situation to class teacher at new school and also admin when submitting forms.
We found out last week that mum has been getting 'annoying pointless texts' from the school - she didn't tell us as they 'weren't important'. DH made her forward them and she has had loads we haven't had - including school photos and shoe box appeal.
We had another incident before end of term when I asked teacher to call me - left home no and mob no and he never did. I accosted him in playground and he apopologised and said 'I thought it was mum'.
I am aware that if I go in and lay it on the line, I could look like an interfering SM, but this really could be a welfare concern - DSDS mum does bare minimum and genuinely, if the school contacted her in an emergency she would either ignore them or not pass on the message.
DH can't go into the school as he cannot get any time of work at the moment without losing pay which we can't afford for something like this where I could (and usually would) sort it.
He is suggesting sending me with a letter giving permission to discuss it.
I don't have PR.