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Sian LLoyd a step parent excluded from Blair wedding

63 replies

2rebecca · 16/09/2013 20:42

As a step mother this story made me sad www.walesonline.co.uk/lifestyle/showbiz/sian-lloyd-pain-being-barred-6030231
The story also made the Wail and the Express yesterday.
It's sad that although she has been married to the bride's father for 6 years she wasn't invited but was snubbed by her step daughter.
It's sad that she then discussed her rescinded invitation with the press so that stories of her stepdaughter's wedding were full of theories as to why she was snubbed and how OK this was rather than focussing on the wedding.
Tony Blair didn't show many diplomatic skills where his son's wedding was concerned.

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MyBoysAreFab · 18/09/2013 09:49

Isn't the bride's dress beautiful. (shallow)

Morgause · 18/09/2013 09:57

Sian phoned the bride's mother and had a right go at her. That's what led to the disinvitation.

HootShoot · 18/09/2013 09:58

But your dad is your family sparkly so you would be prioritising your mum over your dad?

JustBecauseICan · 18/09/2013 09:58

There! If she was going cosmic before the wedding, what would she have done once she'd knocked back a few Cherry B's?

Sparklysilversequins · 18/09/2013 10:02

Yes I would if his new wife (that he chose with no reference to the rest of us) was upsetting my Mum and he was stamping his feet trying to make us accept her.

JustBecauseICan · 18/09/2013 10:03

What did she gob off to the mother about, do we know?

(can't believe am getting so involved)

burberryqueen · 18/09/2013 10:07

well when my mother and stepmother were both alive i would have not known what to do at all about any wedding invites as both of them being there just could not have happened. obviously one would choose ones mother.
the aging weathergirl will do anything for publicity.

HootShoot · 18/09/2013 10:10

I don't think I could have chosen and my mum just avoided my dad's wife, although I'm sure she would rather her not be there she never verbalised that. At one point i casually mentioned about my dad sitting on the top table and should we put my step mother with my dads cousin, and my dad said he wouldn't be sitting at the top table if his wife wasn't with him. That was a bit of a shock to me as I genuinely didn't think anyone would expect my step mum to be on the top table, they married when I was an adult so she had never been a mother figure to me. Fortunately for me my stepmother didn't think she should be there either.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 18/09/2013 10:12

Probably something like - not being seated at the top table or something along those lines. Some perceived slight that brought forth the raging Egomonster.

TigerFeet · 18/09/2013 10:17

I don't think anyone can really make judgement unless they know exactly why she was disinvited. SL may believe it's because of her opinions on Iraq but I would imagine that there's more to it than that.

If she were my stepmother and some sort of outrageous behaviour of hers pissed me off, I'm sure I would have done the same. I don't think I've ever heard anything nice about her, she sounds like hard work and very mememememe. The bride was probably concerned about her making a scene. My Dad would just have to suck it up I'm afraid.

JustBecauseICan · 18/09/2013 10:28

Was SL terribly vocal about Iraq?

I bet that's what she'd like us to think it's about, when really it's all about the Cherry B fear and her gobbing off that she's not sat next to Tone.

nipersvest · 18/09/2013 10:34

sian lloyd has trotted out the iraq references as she thought it would garner her the most public sympathy, deflecting from herself and pointing blame at the blairs.

she will know exactly why she was un-invited.

JustBecauseICan · 18/09/2013 10:57

Well, sadly I googled, and I found Martins Scorsese, and Sheen and Gore Vidal and numerous other luminaries, but Moonface wasn't on the list. Until the nuptials like.

Merrylegs · 18/09/2013 11:10

Arfing at her name-dropping 'we had dinner at my club'. The bride looks beautiful and very happy.

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief · 18/09/2013 11:19

Her lack of personal dignity is really quite staggering, as is her arrogance that TB cares what she thinks about the Iraq war. Possibly given her lack of discretion, it was feared that she might decide to go on a drunken rant about it before passing out in the trifle.

' at my club....' Shu-dder

Kirk1 · 18/09/2013 13:11

2rebecca, I guess I never really worried about what my Father thought. anyway, Darling Daddy was fine about it. I was having a very small wedding; only family and DH's closest two friends, and having the man who chucked out his 7-year-old daughter because his new wife couldn't stand me was enough concession. I wasn't having sourfaced bitch there anyway. Fortunately she's dead now so I can have a relationship of sorts with him without having to endure her.

Ooh, I sound so bitter. Not everyone gets a lovely stepmum :) Sounds like the newest Mrs Blair has a real peach and I sympathise with her.

mignonette · 18/09/2013 13:18

If you are the adult offspring and either of your divorced parents wish to meet and marry somebody else then it is nothing to do with you and you do not have the right to expect to be consulted regarding a parents choice of partner.

How selfish and childish especially as you wouldn't expect your parents to have the right to 'veto' your own choice of partner.

at some of these comments. There are people who really would seem to prefer their divorced parents remain alone and unhappy rather than dare to be with somebody they do not 'approve' of.

mignonette · 18/09/2013 13:20

My sister sat my parents/step parents down and said they were all invited and if any of them dared to moan about it then all of them would be disinvited.

at my sisters ingenuity. They all behaved.

Kirk1 · 18/09/2013 14:00

Migonette, if I had tried that, Stepmother would have complained just so I wouldn't invite Mother. That's one of the reasons none of my father's family liked her.

mignonette · 18/09/2013 14:03

Kirk I understand that there are some unpleasant step parents and i am sorry that you have had one of them. It worked for my sis especially when she said if they acted like children she would treat them like it and sit them all together on a table w/ the real child guests .

I just don't think that adult children have the right to dictate who their parents fall in love with or even sleep with.

Kirk1 · 18/09/2013 14:10

never said they did. The thread is about who you want to invite to your wedding though, and in that case surely who is married to whom shouldn't have as much bearing as who the bride and groom can stand to be around?

mignonette · 18/09/2013 14:17

NO, some posters have said that Kirk. I never indicated who they were or that it was you. However sometimes you may need to invite people you don't particularly get on with but who ought to be there. The future in laws for example may be people you do not like and cannot stand to be around but the bride or groom would have to be mature and accept their presence. Same goes for the partner/spouse of a parent. Just because you do not like them is not a good enough reason to inflict hurt upon your parent who does love them by not inviting them. The adult thing to do is be gracious.

JustBecauseICan · 18/09/2013 14:26

No-one ought to be anywhere.

Even if real, proper DNA is involved.

Some people we share DNA with might be total and utter arses and not worthy of being invited. Ditto step-parents/siblings etc.

Kirk1 · 18/09/2013 14:44

I disagree. No-one OUGHT to be there. Legally you only have to have two witnesses, so if the couple hate their entire family and want to ask two strangers to witness that's their prerogative. I don't see the logic of gritting your teeth and being gracious to anyone who the rest of the time you wouldn't stay in the same room as, even if they are married to a parent you love. When you get married you can still go places without your spouse, you're not grafted onto each-other and in this country it is legal for one to go to a party and the other stay home.

BTW, I also didn't invite my Mother's D(now ex)H, Father's former best mate who ran off with his wife either. Or is it only stepMOTHERS who care about this shit?

Lol, I don't know why I'm even arguing this, it's not a situation I'm going to be repeating!

mignonette · 18/09/2013 14:52

Exactly- have a wedding without any of them if it is that bad.

But part of being a decent, mature and kind person is not wanting to hurt a parent you love by excluding the person they love and married just because you do not like them. Especially if they haven't done anything to warrant the dislike other than being a step parent.

You can be vindictive and begrudging, yes. But I do wonder if you love your parent how you can bear to see them hurt when in fact as the bride/groom you would barely notice the presence of a step parent at a wedding because you will be busy.....

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