My DP and his ex are currently in a 'dispute' over the summer school holidays. Out of the 6 weeks - we have them for 2 (on holiday) / ex is having them for 2 (on holiday) / plus we have DS for one of the week's where he is going to a daily activity camp with my dd. We are also having them 5 out of the 7 weekends and we also have them once a week as usual. It leaves ex 1 week to full in for ds and 2 weeks to full in for dd. However she wants DP to take the kids for part of that as she needs to work. She is self employed as an artist with very flexible hours. DP runs his own business and can't afford the time or money to not be at work especially leading up to 2 weeks holiday. He has offered to have them for some of that time but said that they will have to go to an out of school club on those days and that they should split the cost. Is this fair? She can claim child care through working tax credit (which we can't) but she says that she won't be 'bullied' into paying for it. Where do you draw the line?
Meanwhile with regard to my ex and our kids - he is having them 9 days out of the whole holidays. I will have the 2 week break with them and use out of school providers for the rest. They are resident with me, ex pays child support / I received child benefit and child tax credit - for me that is fair.....