This is so hard.

[reflection]

DP and I have split up. Still in contact with SD and SS. See them about once a week. Listen to their news, share joy in their achievements and try to be a support. Howver every time I listen to them talk about DP it breaks my heart. I don't think that I show my emotions and I only want them to be free to share without questions but it just drains me. Just so painful. Now I know how some BM's must feel when children come home with all their 'news'. Just hope that I can pride my self with the fact that I will never compromise my relationship with the kids through the pain that I feel. Sorry to rant but its just so hard. So good to share. If only things could be how we dreamed they could be!

Oh reflection, poor you

You certainly don't have to apologise hun

I really don't know what advice to give you, just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you xx

Thinking of you reflection, {hug}

Have a virtual {{hug}} reflection. Sorry this is so hard for you. We're all here for you when you need to offload.

How lucky are your stepkids to have you to share with - hope the pain lessens, and that you can continue to share their joy.

Thank you. I'm feeling more upbeat today. Last night was a bit sorry for myself!! However I know that these feelings do pass. I am sure that eventually I will have got beyond it all and as new things come into my life I won't batter an eye lid!!

Ever hopeful xx

Glad you're feeling better today you're allowed an off-day, blimey we all have them sometimes. I'm sure you're right too that once new things come into your life you won't bat an eyelid

Keep smiling

I'm sure that given time, it will ease for you, its still early days. {hug}

BTW I think that it is great that you still see so much of them, they will always see you as their step-mum and you will always be close.

By the way I don't normally batter my eye lids!! Got a little carried away there....

By the way I don't normally batter my eye lids!! Got a little carried away there....

what a wonderful relationship you have with your step children and how hard this must be for you.