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sandiy · 25/08/2013 07:57

I have 3 children ex left in very messy circumstances to be with already pregnant girlfriend.She is now the children's step mum.Over the summer the children spent time at their dads flat with gf and dad working plus new baby.I knew about this was nt massively happy but I try to be reasonable and want the children to have as much time with their dad as possible.It was a disaster.Unfortunatly they were all stuck I for 2days waiting for new phone to arrive.My children are used to being active so ended up going stir crazy I know how hard it can be but it turns out that girlfriend went completely nuclear had a massive screaming melt down on more than one occasion.Mychildren now do not want to see her anymore as they are very frightened of her, My gut instinct is to keep them away for a while their dad can do day trips etc with them this is hard on them as they are used to every other weekend and once during the week access.Now they will be lucky to see their dad once a week for a few hours.I can t help feeling that my children are suffering and its not fair on them is it unfair for me to suggest girlfriend goes back to parents house for a night here and their so the children can see their dad a bit more.Any constructive advice would be appreciated this is not a battle between me and girl friend I genuinely want what's best.

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Kaluki · 27/08/2013 00:06

You shouldn't stop the dc seeing their dad and you absolutely can't insist she stays away from her own hime but you can insist that they aren't left on their own with his GF if she can't control her temper.

They aren't her responsibility. When DP has dsc in the holidays he takes annual leave to spend time with them as does my ex. If he can't make time to see them then there is no point in them going.
I can see why she was angry - my dsc and dc are a nightmare if cooped up indoors for too long but she shouldn't have scared them like that.

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