I'm not quiet sure how to feel about this.

[BeckyBrandon]

DSD mum has always kept DP and I at arms length, we've tried very hard in the past to keep things friendly. Last year she stopped talking to me all together.

DSD has told my DD that her mum is going to invite my DD and DP to her birthday party, but not me.

I feel upset, obviously. But I haven't said anything yet because I don't know how I should react. I don't know what the RIGHT thing to do is.

I don't think you need to do anything. Except plan yourself a treat to distract yourself during party time.

I think in some ways it's lovely your DD has been asked. It includes her to the this side of her family. Lovely that the DSD wants her there.

I know it excludes you but it may be the beginning of the barriers being brought down?

Or is there a hidden agenda!
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I don't think it will have much to do with the mum inviting DD more that DSD has started to dig her heels in and that she wants us invited. DD and DSD are extremely close, it's really lovely.

We all have a good relationship with DSD, DP Jokes and calls me mary and DSD is my little lamb that follows me everywhere.

DSD mum is married now and has 2 more children. So I don't think she will be trying to get DP back, I'm not even remotely worried about that, because DP would be horrified.

I just feel a bit hurt that I have really done my up most to make DSD part of our family, make sure she is comfortable etc and now it feels like I'm being pushed out. Maybe I'm just being hormonal.

It is hurtful and petty but don't ever let her know that.

When the invite comes I would act as if you are thrilled to bits about how lovely it is for them to be invited. Drop into conversation how you are planning on spending your free time pampering yourself/ having a treat etc and just keep saying how lovely it is.

Is DSD likely to be upset that you are not invited?

Yeah I was thinking about doing it that way Jaqueline.

Yeah DD is already anxious. We're quiet close. I don't think she would have a good time either. She's never met any of DSD family.

If i had my way I wouldn't let her go but I know that's unreasonable.

It would also cost them about £200 - £300 to get to the party and back again as they live the other side of England.

How old is your dd?

DD is 10 and DSD is 12