5yr old DSD Keeps saying, 'Mummy says' HELP at my wits end

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So its becoming a regular occurrence now, just about every week.....
'Mummy says you can't put me to bed.'
'Mummy says your daughter is fat'
'Mummy says I can't say ' (a certain line from a kids film that me and my kids say all the time)
'Mummy says you can't cuddle me.'
'Mummy says I don't like sleeping here.'

After the comment about my own DD I am in half a mind to go round there!!! My OH says he will have words but just wondered what do you lovely ladies think?
Any advice appreciated
Thanks

Is she trying to cause conflict to see how the land lies?

I'd be tempted to answer with "Oh, that's nice." And then ignore it.

Children are generally happy that different houses have different rules.

What she said about your daughter was rude though, and I'd've called her on it.

She just comes out with it like she has just remembered what she has been told to say iyswim? She has been quite happy doing all those things with me then the next week she acts weird around me. You can see the cogs going round in he little head. Really would love to call her on it but don't think I would do it very well lol

If she's being sent into battle by her mother, you can only fight be being utterly reasonable and loving!

I wouldn't engage with it. Unless she says actually mean things, like about your daughter being fat - I'd tell her that was mean, and then move on quickly.

Can you ask her when she says these things 'what does [dsd name] think, because I'm interested in you and your feelings'

Or is she a little too young? I've had the same from my dsd, not the mummy says but the change in attitude towards me after seeing her mum. I normally will ask her how she is, did she have a lovely time with mummy and then tell her how pleased I am she's had a good time. All of a sudden she goes back to being herself.

It's such a shame some adults feel the need to put their feelings before the well being of their child and foist unnecessary opinions onto young children who feel so loyal to their parents.

Good points made thank you :). She is definitely being sent in to battle as all comments have been made about me and now onto my kids. I still think she has major feelings for my OH and think if I disappear she would still be in with a chance..........after over 5 years?? Silly woman. I feel so sorry for this kid as she is the one that is going to get told off by dad if she is rude about me or my kids. Or indeed in the future if/when she directs her rudeness at me herself. Who is ultimately going to suffer? Poor little thing x x