Dss birthmother gone to Disneyland for 3 weeks and not invited him

[galaxy]

ds's birth mother has added another selfish act to her long list.
She's pregnant with her 3rd child and going on holiday to Disneyland with her dp, 14 month old dd and dp's family with not a thought that ds would have loved to have had the opportunity. They are getting the apartment for nothing so it would have just been flights and negotiating time off school or going in the school holidays. She hasn't even considered that he will feel left out.
But then this is the woman who left him when he was 4 to shack up with her teenage lover, didn't consider his feelings the 1st time she got pregnant or the 2nd time, gave him a £15 cd for his 13th birthday when she'd promised to contribute to a new PC for him and basically spends most of the time he goes to visit her on a Sunday finding other things to do than spend quality time with him.

I'm more angry than ds appears to be but I'm getting totally fed up with the way in which she has no comprehension that the way she acts is wrong.

Rant over

not suprised you're fed up - but at least your dss has a considerate and sensitive step-mum - and I'm sure he realises

thats low

That's the bit I struggle with though and I know I shouldn't ...she treats him like crap and he still shows total loyalty to her. I know he always will but I find it hard to comprehend.

Oh I forgot to mention the fact that a few weeks ago she admitted trying to have an affair with dh best friend when they were married - she told ds that dh had driven her so mental that she turned to his friend...how cruel is that?

How timely. ds has just come down to say goodnight and said that he's been thinking about the fact that he wont see his mum for 3 weeks. He said although he's a bit peed off at not getting invited to Disney, he's more upset with her that she hasn't even considered that he may be upset about not seeing her for 3 weeks. She's due to see him next on the 21st May and then not again the following week as we are away. He said he's half a mind to cancel the 21st and see how she likes it. Sad thing is, it probably wont bother her.

of course he'll be loyal to her - but you will have always have a relationship with him that you have worked at, that you deserve, that you have earned - that's every bit as special imho. Which is not to say I don;t realise ho frustrating it must be for you.