Thought I'd start a new thread as the pre school issue in my last one has been pretty much resolved (sob) and the thread moved on to other things...
So, DP's solicitor has advised him to apply for shared residency but that he needs to have a think if he wants to apply for 50/50 or a greater share of residency. I'm sure loads of you have been through residency cases and have residency orders - so I'd love to pick your brains. There's so much he didn't discuss with the solicitor at this stage - £200+ an hour I told him to get in and talk fast :) She's just talked him through the basics.
He would obviously love to have the DSD's more than 50% of the time- until recently we had them perhaps 80% of the time. But equally he understand they need to have lots of time with their mum to have a meaningful relationship.
So my questions are:
-Is there any real benefit to having a shared residence order 50/50 care? In your opinion was it worth the stress, worry and cost?
-If he made an application to court for shared residency how long would it likely be before the court date is set?
- Will it look bad on him if he proposes we have more than 50% residency (we have valid reasons, well, reasons we believe to be valid) will it look to a judge that he is trying to "take away" time with their mother and will him asking for more than 50% make a judge consider giving him less than 50%. (Their mum has stated clearly she only wants 50% but our solicitor warned us this often happens and at court the parent who previously only wanted 50% asks for more when they realize the other parent wants more.
Thank you and sorry to be abusing this forum and asking so many questions - we have lots of issues and having found this forum I feel like it would be silly not to ask for 1st hand advice here!
Snow