I am expecting a baby with fiance but DS (11) is very unhappy

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Not sure if I am posting this in the right place. I am pregnant with DC3 with my fiancee who has 2 DS's himself (2 and 5). My son is very unhappy about it, in fact he was in tears when I told him and his sister I was expecting a baby. I now feel so guilty for being pregnant and for being excited about having a baby when it has made my son so sad.

We have a really good relationship and he has told me that he thinks I will neglect both him and his sister once the baby is here, I will prefer the baby to them and that my relationship will change with him.

I am hoping that in time and once the baby is here things will be OK and I have obviously been reassuring him as much as I can and will make sure that he knows how much I love him and his sister once the baby is in our lives but just wondered how others in the same/simular situation handled it.

Thanks

keep telling your son that he is going to be the big brother, this is his sibling, who will love him and look up to him, he gets to teach his new sibling what is cool,

he needs to feel that the baby belongs to him.

children are conservative and resist change, you need to sew the what's in it for him ideas,

tell him you are relying on him to train baby to kick a football, skateboard what ever it is that he is good at, as fiancee is not up to it,

try to let him see positive ways he can become involved,

he might of overheard people stressing about childbirth,horror stories, so is frightened for you, so rejecting the whole thing, this happens a lot.

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Good idea about saying I am relying on him regarding football etc as he loves it whereas Dp isn't very good at sport. He probably is worried about the birth as he a big worrier who doesn't like change.

He is intent on letting me know that the baby won't mean the same to him as his sister as he/she will only be a half brother/sister.

I am trying to be there for him and not get cross when he says some of the things he says as I realise he is just worried about how it wall all affect him but I am finding it more hurtful and just worry that he will always feel this way.