Dd is 2 tommorow and her half sister has never met her.

[Carmenere]

I'm not sure why this is bothering me so much atm but I just feel really sad about it. Her 14yr old half-sister lives a 5 minute walk away but has never shown any interest in seeing her.

Her mum told her that her dad would stop loving her when the baby was born and she hasn't been here since. She also has stopped seeing her dad which he is heartbroken about.

I just feel really sad that my dd and a nice young woman are missing out on having a relationship. My dd loves her other two half-siblings who are 17 and 18. I just feel helpless and most of the time ignore the problem but it's occasions like birthdays that highlight just how wrong this is.

Don't know what to do and I suspect that there is very little I can do as dsd ignores all phone messeges and won't answer when her dad or her brother rings.

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can you not send her a letter explaining how you feel and how missed she is?-easy to avoid phone calls-but curiosity surely will ensure that she reads a letter.

Just wanted to sympathise Carmenere, although no real advice I don;t think.

DS has two half siblings.

When I was pg dsd (now 17) was 15 and we had a difficult time with her. I think it was a tricky stage for her anyway and she reacted badly, was obviously struggling with feelings of jealousy etc.

We didn't see her at all for about 6 months (she was also living a short distance away), although she did come & see DS when he was born and has visited us (but never stayed over night since) however her relationship with us remains cool to say the least and as we have recently moved we hardly ever see her.

Dss (19) was fine during my pregnancy but went through a difficult stage after DS was born.

We have better contact with him now.

I think sadly it is common and it is great that your dd has a good relationship with her other half siblings.

The only advice I can offer is, as my DH did, your (DH?DP) must keep persevering whether by texting, writing letters etc, in the hope that one day she will come round to the idea or that her curiosity will get the better of her!

Have you tried to contact her yourself? She might respond to that?

I'm not sure how she would react to me. We got on really well before dd was born but 2 years are a long time in a teen life and then she was a sweet little girl, now she is quite a hard girl. I totally agree with you about dp, I think it is really important for him to keep trying with her as I'm scared she is going to turn around in a few years and accuse him of not trying hard enough. He does his best though.