Father's day mini-rant

[origamirose]

We had my DP's children for the mother's day weekend. We made cards to accompany the gift that DP's ex had asked for (via the children) - a very specific top from local shop.

We have the children this weekend too but neither one of them (age 8 & 11) has brought a card for their dad.

Is it too much to expect for their SAHM to pop a card in with the packing (and week's worth of school uniform washing that has appeared because 'mummy's going away this weekend and you will have to wash our sports stuff anyway')?

Or, on a slightly more serious note, is it too much to think that the 11 year old might think about this before having to be asked if she wanted to go out and get a fathers' day card?

That is a shame. I got my own Father's Day card aged 11.

I did too and I have had to remind both my DSSs earlier this week about Father's Day and they are much older!! It's very sad.
Mind you, one of them didnt even buy me a card for my birthday (or a little token gift) earlier this year, even though when he heard we were going out for dinner he said he could come and join us for that! It makes me feel like not bothering about his!

In the last three years we have never receive any cards for birthdays, Christmases or Father's day. My DSC are 14 and 16. My DH puts on a brave face but I know it really hurts him that they don't send anything. Their thoughtlessness and/or deliberate snub infuriates me.

origamirose
Why dont you take the kids out and get the card and presents
or give them some paper and pens so they make one.

do you really want a card /presents the ex has chosen in your house

eighties chick where did you get the money at 11 to buying cards ?
and where did you go to get one?

Masie

why does your DH nor take his kids down the shops with money to get him cards and presents or why dont you what to it

They live a three hour drive away from us and we don't see them very often, maybe once a month. Being teenagers they prefer to spend their weekends with their friends than coming to see us which is understandable. When they are here they certainly wouldn't want either myself or DH taking them shopping. I feel that they are both old enough to sort out cards and presents on their own.

We do make sure that they remember to buy Mother's day cards etc.

Why were the kids not at home with their mum on Mothers Day ?

They were with their mother. We reminded them to buy a card prior to the day itself.

Longjane you're right and of course cards/presents have been chosen/bought to surprise him with tomorrow. I would never even dream of not doing that!

Sassy not sure who the mothers day conversation is directed at. My DPs children were with us on mother's day because that's what their mother wanted.

I pester my stepchildren until they have bought or made one , and bought a gift . In the past , when they were younger I gave them chores to earn the cash for a pressie. They earn their own cash now . I still offer a reminder .

I expect everyone in our house to be treated with respect and consideration , this includes buying or making gifts on special occasions . Kids do need reminding of this . We do have them 50/50 so easier to keep on top of it . I wouldn't expect their mum to help as I've been in their lives for a while .

hallmark, guilt laden forced day of appreciation. Not everyone is into it. I wouldn't dwell, it means nothing.

LongJane - bought card out of pocket money, went to card shop myself. Not beyond an eleven year old, then or now!