does disney dad behaviour ever stop?

[mattysmum09]

I am not a sm like others on here I made the mistake of getting with someone with children and i would never do it again. I've tried leaving but we have a child together now so he's reluctant to let that happen, but I have written before about spoilt Sk's and his inability to say no to them. Anyway I basicaly avoid being around him when he is with them and as they are older and contact visits have come to a stop it has been ok. Times when i was around them i would leave his house thinking, thank god I never moved in with him and had to deal with that for a whole weekend!! We moved in together recently so am having to witness his strange behaviour a bit more often but am hoping as sk's become adults he will stop?? please tell me it stops??

Oh please tell me it stops!!!
Mattysmum - very sensible of you to not live together while he was in the throes of the Disney dad parenting and let him get on with it. I wish I had done that!
I am curious - has it now come back and bitten him on the arse? Now they are older are they affected by his parenting? Are they horrible entitled (almost) adults or did they turn out OK?

In my experience (4 years in now) - with an incredible amount of work and focus and heartache it can be lessened. But what I am finding is that the Disney habits are deeply ingrained, and it is far too easy for DH to lapse back into them when he's busy or tired or stressed. Things have improved so much for us - but at the moment, we're struggling with a disney issue - so it may hibernate but so far I am not sure it goes away! I hope it does and that our crrent bout is just a hiccup!

I am also realizing that part of DH's 'disney dadding' is not only about his indulgence and over-compensation of the kids - it is also just about taking the path of least resistance more generally. He was a bit of a disney dad long before he was a single dad, I now know, and he and I have to guard against it even with our toddler.

I think the Disney syndrome is often caused by guilt. My lovely dh is a great dad and his former marriage broke down through his wife's affair. Dh remained a committed father, always there for them, supported them financially/emotionally, and most importantly....with his time.

However, rather than get to the bottom of rude or nasty behaviour because he felt guilty for them being the product of a broken home and didn't want to risk alienation, his youngest dd at 18 is riding roughshod over him.

I don't think it ever stops, personally.

Brdgirl. Same here. DP's Disney dadding isn't just about the kids. His whole family walk all over him and he lets them. He is a big softie - exactly why I love him, but my God I sometimes wish he had a backbone!!!

Agree with the others here. It doesn't stop but it can calm down IMHO.