Parental Alienation article

[NotaDisneyMum]

karenwoodall.wordpress.com/2012/05/23/understanding-parental-alienation-part-one/

Sadly, something that many of us on this board can relate to

Wow, thank you so much for lining to this article. My teenage SD moved in with us a year ago, after having a very traumatic time with her mum, she didnt talk to her for a year.

We tried to get SD to go to mediation, or communicate in some way with her mum but she just wouldnt and if you mentioned it to her she was absolutely terrified we would force her, tears, shouts everything you can imagine, it has been horrible.

There is now a light at the end of the tunnel, she has met up with her mum twice, she still wont allow her mum to have her phone number and as long as she is in control she is ok.

Im not sure if she will ever have a normal relationship with her mum but at least we are over the worst.

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My sister's stepson (15) is very affected by this. When he lived close to his dad it was fine and he got on well with my sister. He and his mum moved 2 hours away (when he was 12) and the situation got worse and worse. He has now written a letter saying he wants no further contact with his father. So sad.

My sister didn't meet her husband until he and the mum had been apart for 8 years so had no part in the relationship breaking down.

An interesting article. As a father who had a closer relationship with my kids than my ex, when she first took them to move in with her lover, without consulting me or establishing any contact for nearly a month (until my eldest spoke up about a booked football trip) I was devestated, to couple with that, when she heard on the rumour mill that I was going for custody, she lied to the doctor and made up allegations of abuse that, although disproved three months later (thanks to cafcass) meant I lost that bond I had with them. So, yes, I fully understand the alienation thing. I felt it worse when I did have court approved regular contact time - I just can't cope with the idea that someone is telling me when I can/can't see them. It is easier to cope with now I have moved away bizarrely, It was MY choice, not a Judges this time. Now I have moved away, I keep better contact with them that I did when I was a few miles away, as the ex has now allowed me to phone them , or them to phone me, more that she did while I was close. However, from some of the discussions I have with eldest, I know I am being badmouthed , and just hoping that she doesn't succeed in total alienation.