I'm nervous - DP is telling his kids tonight of our plans to move in together

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Told mine a couple of days ago, and they are really keen and excited :)

But not so sure how his kids will react. They're aged 9-14.

How did your DSC react to first becoming part of a new family? Any advice?

Mine were fine. I thought DSD would be upset as she doesn't have her own girly room here buy she has never seemed bothered.
My dc were happy too at the time but I think DS1 finds them a but much now he is getting older.

We are looking for a bigger house and I think when we move it will feel more like 'our' house and less like my house.

My step kids were over the moon. Great whoops of delight, which really surprised me.

I've read on here of step kids who were less thrilled and yet it's worked out just fine.

So, what I would say is don't be disheartened if they're less than delighted because with time and reassurance it can still work very well.

He phoned me in the end last night - They were keen and excited :)

DD1 (14) said "about time!" apparently (and when are we getting married? and can she be our wedding planner?...), the younger two were keen and DS1 (13) - who'd we'd not expected to be terribly keen was kind of alright about it (though already in a bit of sulk because new limits on computer time have been imposed this weekend....) Meanwhile his DD2 (11) has been making a list of house rules for us all

I'm really pleased though - as I hadn't been too sure how they'd be about us moving into their house, but apparently DP's DS2 (who'll be sharing with my DS) actively wants to share :) My DS is not so thrilled about sharing - but have been telling him they can choose a new colour for the room to be painted, which he's keen about. Feeling very excited right now :)

Brilliant idea to draw up house rules but YOU need to write the list!!!
I wish I has do e that from the off - its hard making new rules stick!!
Glad they were happy - good luck!

Glad it went well - all the best with the move!

Yes, Kaluki, you're right. Me and DP have already had a think about what rules we want, (some of which he's told her and have gone on the list) but I'm happy to see what else she comes up with. Apparently so far it consists of "[my DS] must not smell or leave dirty underpants around" so I'm all for it!

That's fair enough

Met up with them all today. Kids all seem really excited and are already discussing choice of room decoration :)

DSD2 (to be!) has just sent me an ecard saying congratulations and how much she's looking forward to us moving in. Am dead chuffed :)

And to top it all, DP has instigated AND ENFORCED new computer gaming limits this weekend (much to the annoyance of his DS1 - though DP seems to have managed to pass it off as unrelated to the move) - this was a major issue for me so I'm really pleased with him.

What a wonderful start to your blended family

When are you going to move in? Is it far from your house now?

Thanks :)

Moving in July - no luckily it's not far, less than a mile and across the road from my DD's school so it's only the house that we're leaving, not the community or anything else. I'm really pleased they've all taken it so well. Just hope it works out OK. Read lots of problems on this board of the difficulties people have, so am aware there could be challenges ahead. But hopefully it'll work out.