For a start, DSD is now here every Friday night. At least that is the plan. And every Saturday day time. Better than we thought in Dec & Jan as she said she would never come and also then that if she did ever come it would be on alternate weeks to my DD. But I still feel it?s rather annoying as we used to do alternate weekends same as with my DD and now we have her here when DD is not which is pretty annoying.
However, since this was put in place in Feb there is always some reason why this has to change. I know she?s a soon to be teen (13 next week) and that she has social engagements but we are talking a very young teen, not 14/15 + and where her dad only gets to see her so rarely where he is used to 4 out of 7 days it?s really hard. As it is for my DD who doesn?t understand. It?s all about what DSD wants ? like the worst thing in the world would be if she was told no. Am I the only one who was made to traipse around various grandparents and aunts every so often at the weekend?? Did it kill me? Was I flung in to a pit of misery and solitude and forced to commit social suicide? No! And something else, had I not ever bothered to do ?boring? family things at weekends at that age I certainly wouldn?t have been allowed to rock up two weeks later to a pile of Easter Eggs lovingly gifted and stacked in my bedroom.
Last weekend we had plans to spend both days with family ? she changed at last minute to say she was going away with her friend for the weekend and that following week. She came last night and was due to stay all day today. She gets up at 12pm and calls her Mum straight away who suggests that her dad take her home (one and a half hour round trip) for 1pm so they can go shopping to buy things for her birthday party next weekend because oh, guess what ? she wants to have it at her mums and it just has to be on the Friday (even though her birthday is on tues) so we wont have her then either. DH has said no to the early drop off. Both ex and dSD made a fuss and he said if it meant that much ex could come and collect? suddenly it became not so important.
DSD didn?t have breakfast because she was asleep, she didn?t fancy lunch, and is now satin the kitchen having just eaten a double decker, a crème egg and a whole Easter egg in the space of 10 minutes.
I said I thought she should have something proper (don?t know why I bother) and her dad said the same. She just shrugged and said no. No repercussion ? she?s already lost her pocket money and now we?re not going to see her for two weeks there is hardly any point in coming up with a punishment.
I know I moan on here all the time but FFS it?s sooooo annoying to not have any say over the behaviour of a child who treats your home as a f?ing hotel, has no manners and barely any idea how to behave as you would expect a young child to ? never mind the adult that she is afforded the rights of.
Scream!!!!!