Disney dad strikes again

[tokenwoman]

I don't live with DP but spend most of my time with him. 1dsd 15 lives with mother and eow with DP and my 2ds 19 and 20 eldest at uni youngest lives with me. there is no blended family in place this end. I've rented for the last 7 year after moving 600 miles to be with him I finacially support myself and my boys alone I am buying my own place but there has been a delay in completing but moved out last week won't complete for another 3 weeks all my stuff is currently in his garage
it was his daughters weekend but she wasn't due until Sunday my son stayed with friends until Friday and the plan was stay with DP and me until sunday and then move him to our friends who kindly offered to put him up for few days then back to DP .DS starts a new job on Tuesday so I'm trying to give him some stability until we move in
DP wanted him out by 10am Sunday so I could rearrange DSD room back to it normal mess but had no arrival time for DSD which I thought was a unreasonable But said "fine" DSD text at 2pm on sat to say she needed picking her and a friend up at 5 to stay the evening so DP jumped and said yes despite above arrangements
fast forward to massive row moved myself and ds out to friends
he hasn't seen his DD for over a month as she cancelled her last weekend with him, he will hardly see her in the coming months as he has made other arrangement for some of her weekends.
I guess I've finally realised I am so low down of the list of his priorities. it's all ok for her to cancel at the last moment. it all ok for him to cancel if he has something better to do on her weekends but not ok to cancel her because of me and my small emergency (the first in 7 years)
the sad thing is she will have arrived with friend gone straight to her room taken a vast quantity of cash off him and not spoken to him unless it was to go shopping or to go back home or to swap friends over to stay and he will have sat alone in the living room he has no real relationship with his DD

my DS is well aware that DP doesn't really want him around even if it's only for a couple if weeks
life feels dreadful at the moment I hate imposing on anyone bad enough when it's just me but with my son in tow as well the pain is unbearable
I've reached the end of this particular road with Disney dad and daddies little princess

Im fine today, back at work and trying to function as a normal well adjusted person, my son is fine too starts his new long awaited job/career today and seems happy enough. My friends are spoiling him with love and affection and making him as comfortable as possible

we are just waiting for the completion date which won't be until the end of april (this massive cock up is another story) Ive cried buckets of tears over this issue with DP but the saddest thing is that once Id left DP his DD blew him out for saturday evening anyway saying her life had got too complicated to come to him (!!!!) he then cancelled sunday/monday with her as he didnt want to cope with her and her friends on his own so he had a very lonely weekend
in hindsight I should have lodged my son with my friends at the start and none of this would have happened
I guess it has served to highlight serious problems with my relationship with DP despite previous attempts to ignore them in the past

in hindsight I should have lodged my son with my friends at the start and none of this would have happened

Cant you see how terrible this is for you, a man who cannot accept your children and isnt helping you when you are in need of it.

Get rid of him, he isnt worth this, no man is.

You would be fine without him, he is a selfish, self centred prick (sorry), who doesnt deserve you, no wonder his daughter is the way she is.

Can't improve on what EmilyPollifax said earlier. I don't see what is in this relationship, where you and anything to do with you, consistently come bottom of the list of priorities. Move on and look for a better life. Glad your son is OK.

Leave this situation. FOR EIGHT YEARS you've been his "housekeeper, your ds has been "tolerated" at best, you don't count. WHAT ARE YOU DOING WOMAN?

This isn't about sd or her room. This is about a selfish man who doesn't give a toss about anyone but himself. That seems to include is own daughter.

Run away. Don't look back. If you stay you're accepting the status quo.