Help me get some perspective ladies!!?

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I have 2 dsd's who live with us permanently. I suppose I should consider myself lucky - No ex to deal with as such as she's in a home. I have my own ds (12). The kids get on the majority of the time, and my partner is a good man. It's just sometimes I want to scream. When I met him I didn't choose this! They love me and I do my best but sometimes I get jealous - yes I've said it! and miss the days when it was just him and me and my ds. Sometimes I honestly think I can't cope and then others I realise how much I love him and know that I have to stick at it. How do you do it? How do you watch your partner treat his kids differently to your own? How do you stop getting wound up at the stupidest thing? I read about some of the situations you are in and feel humble as mine isn't so bad - I really want to accept what I've got but I struggle and its not fair on the kids - all of them. Any pearls of wisdom...?

Jealousy is natural! i get it a lot but as i have no dcs of my own its more selfishness then anything else.
I would try and look at it from another way, what if it was just you do and dsds then you wouldn't mind how he parents them so much.
There are always going to very differences. but i would talk to him. as you are always together all of you things have to very fair between the children and you have to make that clear.

just have a nice relaxed sit down with him and let him know that you love his daughters but you want to try and make life easier for all of you x

But all children live with you all of the time so why is he treating his own differently? In what way? That to me is the worse thing about the situation you are describing albeit being a step-parent is a minefield I understand.

How does he treat them differently? Is he leaving your ds out? Do you treat them all the same? I think its only natural to treat your own dc differently because you have that natural bond there tbh. When DP and I first got together he expected me to take on a mother type role to his dcs and he more or less ignored mine. I had to have a strong word .

I couldn't have my stepkids full time. I would kill them both! Go easy on yourself and talk to him about how you are feeling.