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so have left my husband in order to never see my step child again

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thegrumpyone · 24/01/2012 20:23

so basically i had so much trouble with my sd i feel relived at saying no more! every time i raised a problem i was being a cow according to him and suddenly every thing my child did was wrong. she has accused me of doing so many things slamming fingers in a door, slapping her all untrue. she told me i was a selfish bitch on her birthday because we couldn't afford to buy her a bike. she has spat on my child stolen from her and guess just wanted to say am sad my marriage is over but thank god she is over.

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brdgrl · 24/01/2012 20:31

I'm sorry, grumpy.

I was just thinking about how often this must happen.
I hope things will be nicer for you and your DC.

thegrumpyone · 24/01/2012 20:42

me to, my dd says please say dsd is not coming this weekend. am pleased as a mother to say no shes not, its empowering to say(with out saying it) i love you so much and this is what a mother,a women should do for her children.

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allnewtaketwo · 24/01/2012 20:45

Sorry to hear that grumpy. How long were you together?

Sometimes things just aren't worth the amount of heartache they cause. Particularly if your poor DD wasn't happy either Sad

How are you feeling?

thegrumpyone · 24/01/2012 20:56

we were married for 3 years and together for 5. i really love the man but my girls in the end are more important. its hard for me and him but she gets daddy all the time which was what she wanted and my girls get to relax in there own home so i guess in the end we all win.

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minceorotherwise · 24/01/2012 21:02

Sounds like an awfully hard decision to have made, but the right one. If he wasn't going to deal with it, you did the the only thing that made a better outcome for your children

thegrumpyone · 24/01/2012 21:10

thank you its hard but i have been the bad guy for to long. i know i wasn't the bad guy i tried and tired. just love my mental health and my girls more. god the step parenting thing is bloobly hard

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PigletUnrepentant · 24/01/2012 22:41

I think you made the right decision... I took a similar one due my ex MIL, I thought I would rather get divorced than keeping putting up with her abuse.

I'm not going to say that the last few years have been an easy ride, but I have no regrets whatsoever. It comes to a point that loves dies simply because you can't face your partner expecting you simply to keep putting up with all the abuse without complaints.

TooMuchInLove · 25/01/2012 16:38

You have done the right thing for you and your girls! they are the most important things.
your ex will now realise you were right all along and he took you for graneed but its too late.
Its quite nice to read that you are strong enough to do it! Good luck op! (toomuch starts getting ideas)
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