Is anyones Stepchild keeps things to herself and doesnt tell you anything?

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as she had always been like that (ive known her since she turned 2) and if you ask her questions she doesnt answer them

She is a lovely girl who is age 7 in march and she help around the house too... we have her every fortnight from fri - sun but before Xmas her nan told my Dp (which is Sd's dad) that she is going away on hols for a week with her nan and she never told even though she knew about it.

or she did tell us that she was gonna be a bridesmaid at her uncles wedding when she got out of the car as we were dropping her off at home on the sunday (i was thinking she had the whole weekend to tell us that and why now??) but then me and Dp forgotton all about it and i suddenly remembered about the wedding and asked her if she had a lovely time and all she said "yes" but didnt talk about it so i just asked her questions about the wedding - strange girl!!

is anyones stepchild is like that too?

(we find stuff off Dps sister who SD is very close to as Sd doesnt tell us anything!!!)

DS1 won't tell me anything after school and then occassionally fills me in on all the news. I don't know that i'd read too much into it unless she is very chatty with everyone else? She might just be a reticient child.
How is the relationship between her partents? If it's antagonistic she might be feeling loyalty to her mum that prevents her from opening up.

well she had never talks about her mum, she always talks about her nan (her mums mum) and we dont know whats goes on at home either

oh its a take of guessing!

I agree kids can often feel split loyalties. In our case, their BM has often told the kids to lie to us or not tell us things. I've learnt to ignore it.

But for what it's worth, another thought - my youngest SS is a bit like that. But not because he's hiding anything (he's only just turned 10) but because he's forgetful or just because of his age.

He's very much "whatever's top of his mind" gets talked about. Being a pageboy etc wouldn't necessarily be top of his agenda until the actual event started (and maybe not even then!). So it wouldn't bother me if he didn't mention it - it's just his way. A new Nintendo game always gets mentioned! But yes, I found it strange at first.

I agree kids can often feel split loyalties. In our case, their BM has often told the kids to lie to us or not tell us things. I've learnt to ignore it.

But for what it's worth, another thought - my youngest SS is a bit like that. But not because he's hiding anything (he's only just turned 10) but because he's forgetful or just because of his age.

He's very much "whatever's top of his mind" gets talked about. Being a pageboy etc wouldn't necessarily be top of his agenda until the actual event started (and maybe not even then!). So it wouldn't bother me if he didn't mention it - it's just his way. A new Nintendo game always gets mentioned! But yes, I found it strange at first.

I agree kids can often feel split loyalties. In our case, their BM has often told the kids to lie to us or not tell us things. I've learnt to ignore it.

But for what it's worth, another thought - my youngest SS is a bit like that. But not because he's hiding anything (he's only just turned 10) but because he's forgetful or just because of his age.

He's very much "whatever's top of his mind" gets talked about. Being a pageboy etc wouldn't necessarily be top of his agenda until the actual event started (and maybe not even then!). So it wouldn't bother me if he didn't mention it - it's just his way. A new Nintendo game always gets mentioned! But yes, I found it strange at first.

OK apologies! I am the impatient one who keeps hitting the post button when her computer freezes !