quickie update (not that its that interesting for you all)

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So DSD came to us on Saturday and basically I thought the best solution to avoid any questions from her and me getting myself into trouble by saying ANYTHING was to go out. SO I went shopping. After DH had taken her back to S/BIL I sat down and talked to him the only way I knew wouldn't cause an argument..by apologising for wanting anything to do with the situation. He said that he was very sorry and that I should be involved when she is told about her mother. Was quite taken aback. Just wanted to vent really.

Thanks for posting, I wanted to ask how it went!

Well, I am glad he apologised, and I do hope they will talk to her very soon. It isn't fair on you or her.

Are you confused.com??

At least he can see your point of view.

Am def confused.com! Sorry about the nonsensical bits above was tired and stressed. Hopefully it won't be long til they talk to her. We've got her again tonight so we'll see if anything happens to move things forward.

Am def confused.com! Sorry about the nonsensical bits above was tired and stressed. Hopefully it won't be long til they talk to her. We've got her again tonight so we'll see if anything happens to move things forward.

Quick update in case you were wondering. Last night we (DH and I) had a really good, calm and productive conversation about the situation and we discussed what the best thing to do was (is it better to have all four of us there? one on one with him etc) I offered (and i mean offered as a suggestion amongst others) to even take her out just me and her and answer any questions she has as I seem to be the only one that she confides in. I am a little worried that she may not get alot out of a situation where B/SIL are there as, with the greatest respect to them for taking DSD, they haven't handled things too well in the past and due ot my SM role and my job I am really well equipped to deal with the sort of things she might say. (I sound so big headed here but I really am only trying to think of the best way to handle this for DSD, she's had so much crap to handle in her little life that I don't want to hurt her anymore)

We have her on Saturday. I really want DH to talk to B/SIL about talking to her soon as I think it needs to be dealt with soon. She asked the question a long time ago to a little girl and it took alot of courage for her to bring the topic up. I just wish that the other adults in the situation could see this too. :(