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have you ever turned to alcohol when things don't turn out well?

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Orioniris · 07/12/2011 14:47

This might not be a big deal, I don't drink much, in fact I think last time I got drunk I was still single. It's stupid that now nothing seems to work out and I decide to have a drink at 3 pm, I have a glass of wine every now and then with my meals and a bit more every other weekend, like I said, never get drunk so I don't mind drinking early but today, I know I'm doing it because I feel terrible and I can't sleep to make time go away faster. I've been dedicating my last year to DP and DSS and things were going so well, the evil ex would ruin things every once in a while but we managed, the kid was happier, his grades and performance at school were amazing, his health was outstanding and his hygiene better than ever, our life was better, I leave to fix my divorce and I come back to a complete utter mess, everything I did for nothing, how is it possible to work so hard for something, achieve it and as soon as you turn your back someone messes it up? Why can't she understand this is for the child and his future? How can she care so less and be so selfish. I have on strength to start from null. My DP sometimes is too scared of the ex to do anything and the ex just doesn't give a Damn, as long as the kid is quiet and she gets her alone time.

I probably sound like a pathetic nag, I know and I'm fine with it, I just wanted to know if anyone here feels/has felt the same way, if so, how did you deal with it?
Thank you.

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glasscompletelybroken · 07/12/2011 16:59

I have a glass of wine most evenings - don't consider it to be a problem. I am very encouraged by your thread as I always thought I should wait till 6pm for it but if others are at it at 3pm I shall join in on occassion!

Seriously though - as long as you know you don't have a problem with it don;t give yourself a hard time over it. it sounds like you have enough on your plate without beating yourself up over this.

kaluki · 07/12/2011 20:34

Alcohol is a great stress reliever.
I definitely drink more when the step kids are around - takes the edge off the stress Grin
Seriously, if you feel it's a problem then you need to deal with it but if not then go for it! Smile

warriorwoman · 07/12/2011 20:45

I drink to relieve the stress. I know I am doing it and I don't always like it because one glass leads to too many. I am getting too old for the hangovers now! All I would say is that it can creep up on you and before you know it you are drinking every night. If you can find other ways to relax, try those too, but a glass of wine every night to relax is ok.

Orioniris · 08/12/2011 08:49

You're all right, and I know I don't have a problem, guess I had never done it because of that before, or maybe not consciously, yesterday I literally had the most horrible day and thought I can't deal with this, I need to get drunk. Of course I didn't, DP came home to start the loudest, ugliest fight in history. Sometimes I really think he likes to push my buttons, he's too proud to leave things before they get out of control, he likes to feel like he won. Men can be such pain...
I know alcohol can be a good stress reliever but I've had a major depression before and it really feels like I'm on my way to another one. Guess the season I felt weird about drinking yesterday was because I no longer felt stressed, just lost, completely lost.
Thank you so much for your comments

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Eliza22 · 08/12/2011 09:42

Have 3 (grown up) steps. One delightful. One periodically charming then indifferent, by turns. The youngest, nearly 18 is an utter nightmare.

I only need to think of her and the hair on the back if my neck stands up!

Is it too early for a Wine ?

ladydeedy · 08/12/2011 18:44

the alternative is to go for a run - makes you feel great! and then i think, oh well if I want a glass of wine that's ok too!

samwellsbutt · 12/12/2011 16:55

argh to being pregnant or i would have spent this whole last weekend drunk.

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