Best way to tell DSS their father has re-married

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Last month DP and I married very simply 2 witnesses, no rings and an afternoon of work. Our intention was to have a blessing in the Spring where DSS aged 9 and 7 and our DD aged 3 would play a major role in the ceremony. Sudden job uncertainty has made us cancel the April ceremony.
This leaves us with a problem in that the registry office 'thing' is now the only wedding and not only did we not invite the children but they don't even know we are married.
The only thing I can think to explain matters is to say we were going to have a big wedding and you and your cousins etc were going to be there, but then we decided to spend the money on a wonderful holiday for all 5 of us. So we just had a wedding with the 2 of us there to save up money to buy treats on holiday.
4 months ago their mother re-married and they were not invited to that ceremony (don't know why as they get on very well with their stap dad). They were with us the day of the wedding and didn't seem at all bothered. So maybe I am projecting my loss of the big reception on to them? I am upset that we have no photos of our wedding and no wedding rings.

Can you not still have a small blessing?

Just very close family/friends?

Do a Kate Winslet and go to a pub for lunch afterwards?

This way you will get the photos and the rings and they will get the wedding.

Have a look at some of the other wedding threads where people have done it on the cheap, instead of presents guests gave them something for teh wedding. eg One made a cake, one did the video, one did the photos, etc.

I too would say can you not do something - anything to get photos? It doesn't have to be expensive

As for the children, if they weren't very bothered about their mum I can't see them being upset about this - I think your explanation is perfect

Congratulations BTW

Buy rings, dress up and go for a 'wedding tea' and tell them about the holiday. I think it will be easier than you think, given lack of any extreme reaction to their mother remarrying.

I'm with the others - suggest you throw some sort of party (whatever suits your preferences/budget) to celebrate and get the rings etc and photos done. Just to be on the safe side, I'd stress to the kids that it was just you two at the registry office - i.e. they weren't the only ones not there.

Congratulations! (Alternatively blow the lights out at your first anniversary...... )

I agree with the others, have a small celebration, get each other rings, dress up, get your photo's and share the day with the kids and close family members.

Congratulations!

first of all Congratulations

I don't want to put a dampner on things but I was on the receiving end of this situation. I was 11 (I think) and my father and my now step mum went off to Switzerland and got married and never told me. When I found out I was so upset I was not told I did not speak to my dad for 6 months. They did in the end have a blessing but it did not make up for it!
All I would say if you do get blessed involve the children.

Sorry for this but it is what I went throught but hopefully it will turn out differently for you x