Appropriate boundaries with DSS

[MaccyH]

Just wanted to get an opinion on what are appropriate boundaries between stepson & stepmother & at what age things should change as DSS enters adolescence?
For example, DH doesn't see why I have an issue if 11yo DSS walks in our bedroom if I have just got out the shower naked & am getting dressed. I rush to cover myself up but DH thinks I am being silly.
Or if we go away & stay in a hotel, at what age is is not really appropriate for DSS to share a room with us anymore?
I have known DSS since he was 8 & at the moment he still seems an innocent child but I am conscious that this could change over the next year or 2.
Would appreciate any opinions.

I started covering up a bit more and giving DS more privacy when he was about 10 years old.

Up to that point, I hadn't been the slightest bit bothered about him seeing me naked and vice versa.

My DP has a much stricter view on nakedness and would never have let his kids see him naked and would never have walked in on their baths after they could bath themselves (DSD was bathing herself at 5).

I think everyone is different and some families walk around naked in front of their teens and see nothing wrong with it. There is no right or wrong but I think with step families, it is probably better to err on the side of caution and cover up - more for their benefit and to save their embarrassment that your own.

Definitely err on the side of caution. Ask him to knock before coming into your bedroom and you offer him the same.

I've had similar thoughts - DSS is now 7 and lives with us full time. He is very innocent and I give him his bath (or rather he likes me to sit in the bathroom and chat with him when he's in the bath) however we've taught him to knock before coming into our room and when I'm getting dressed I do it discreetly and normally ask him to 'leave me in peace'. I think I do it this way because I'm wary of what he will think when he is older. I'm more worried that he would walk in on DP and I than seeing any nakedness. Like others have said, I would err on the side of caution. I think if you feel uncomfortable then I would ask your DSS to knock before coming into your room anytime. Your DH doesn't get to dictate things like that. Its just respect for your privacy. As your DSS gets older he will like that too so its no big deal to go with the 'knock first' policy. Best start it now