calm me down...

[spookshowangellovesit]

emailed itinerary for mediation from dp ex already has my blood boiling received it about half an hour ago when she found out i was coming. due there at 7. still demanding info on my dd condition so she can better prepare her children and provide for her sons safety.
demanding i learn makkaton, i already did years ago.
still wants to meet with me to discuss her sons trisomy 21 to fill in the gaps in my knowledge, i was raised with some one who has down syndrome thats what its called to us lay people.
gahhhhh am i making a mistake in going?

its fine that she doesnt know these things, why should she, but a normal person would ask in a normal way. she is beyond frustrating and the fact that she cant just let dp do his job, she wants to write me out a medical history for her son so i can keep it to hand!!!!
and wants to be able to communicate with me via email in regards to her childrens needs and possible childcare in the future am i to be her babysitter now?

wants to write me out a medical history for her son so i can keep it to hand!!!!
and wants to be able to communicate with me via email in regards to her childrens needs and possible childcare in the future am i to be her babysitter now?

why don't you suggest that she write out a medical history, if she'd like you to have one? after all, you'd hate to get anything wrong...

and does she need to communcate with you? why can these communications not go through your DP? presumably you can address these things at the mediation, not in advance of it.

phew, my god have to say that mediation guy was just amazing. i just kept quiet unless something was directed at me. when it came to my dd and the info she wanted i just asked her what she wanted to know, she didnt know. that fizzled out. aside from thinking she knew what school she went to, she didnt.
her son's issues i used a wrong term and she started shouting at me, i just sat there waiting and the mediation guy basically said to her what i said. i didnt need to know any of this because i am not his parent and i am there as a support to dp.
i said i didnt want any further contact and she got the arse with this. the mediation guy up held this but asked if i would be happy to have her number in case of emergencys. for ages he thought it was dp who didnt want contact with her when he realised it was me she was talking about he just said well its not necessary for spooks to be involved in that way.
so hopefully she will leave us alone now...wistful emocon.

sounds like you handled it well! and i'm very glad the mediator put her straight.

i hope it goes better from here.

no this guy was brill, every time it got off track or started to get person or irrelevant he pulled it back and made dp and ex both see what would work and that if one wanted something it had to be mutual for it to be fair. she was demanding to see dp payslips saying she didnt trust his word regarding his salary.
mediation guy said that just saying what his salary is should be enough but if it isnt then if dp is comfortable to do that, then she also has to make available her income details if we wish to know them. that was funny.
your mediation guy sounds cack mj.

get a new mediator i would say.