I have a dd age 11 and dsd age 11.
Dp and I have been together since the girls were 3, we're very settled, very happy and getting married soon.
We have dsd roughly half the time, every weekend and most school holidays. Her home life with mum is pretty chaotic but seems to have settled more recently.
Dsd has always been really close to dp, to the point where it bas been difficult at times as she can be very jealous. ( understandably so, I know it must be tough for a child to share a parent)
Dp and I don't have huge rows, we are both very clear that we don't want the children to grow in a shouty or tense household. We haven't actually had a big row for at least 18 months.
Dp's relationship with dsd mum is not good, she will call dp to berate him for odd reasons in front of dsd. For example, earlier this year we paid for dsd to go to France on a school trip. We had agreed to pay half each with dsd mum, she didn't pay a penny, so we said we would pay it all but she would have to do the passport. She didn't, she called dp when she picked dsd up from school one day and screamed down the phone that he never gives her anything and basically doesn't care.... It turned out she had lost the forms.
She doesn't acknowledge dp when he drops off or picks up, she accuses him of being aggressive if he disagrees with anything. For example, she wanted to set dsd up on facebook, he said no, she went into a odd rant on the phone in front of dsd saying he was threatening her.
Anyway, we were due to pick dsd up this morning, we have a holiday booked from tomorrow for a week. The two girls planned it together, it's their birthday treat.
Dsd mum called at half nine last night, she says dsd isn't coming and she's scared of dp. Apparently she had told her mum that she has witnessed violent rows and she doesn't want to see dp anymore.
She has told some pretty outrageous lies before if she wants to see friends instead of coming here and it transpires that her siblings are having a day out today.
I can't believe she is scared of dp, she has just spent a whole week with dp on her own and they had a whale of a time.
Any advice at all would be good, dp is devastated, he cried this morning. 