Hiya, I'm new here but have been lurking for a little while! With Fathers day coming this weekend, I would really appreciate everyone opinions on this...
DSD is only 11 months old, so obviously too small to choose a pressie herself.
I've been with DP since baba was only 2 months old, and have been living together for 9 months, are discussing having a baby together and marriage etc.
He and his ex split up before he knew she was pregnant, and they had only been together for 2 months before that. He wasn't happy (they clash massively, plus some Internet flirting/sexting/arranging to meet other blokes on her part) so he had ended it, then she announced it. This changed nothing for him about how he felt about her, but said he would support his child, if she decided to keep it.
He loves his Daughter without question, but he really resents his Ex for a number of things (feeling she trapped him into this situation, her being very difficult when we got together, just the fact that she calls the shots full stop). He would love to have baba full time if we could - as would I. Although I feel maybe I don't deserve to call her my DSD or to post on here, we have baba every weekend and I have a massive part in the responsibility for taking care of her when she is at our house (cook all her meals from scratch, do most of feeding her, get up when she crys, plus I've bought lots of the necessary items for her, such as highchair, clothes, pushchair).
Anyway, the crux of this is; should I buy a Fathers Day card and present from baba, or should I just leave it to his Ex? I feel that it wiuld mean more to him if it came from me, given that he really dislikes his ex, and that she often tries to "score points" with stuff like this. I wouldn't mind if she bought one too (I'm sure she will) but would like to know everyone option.