A quick mothers day question............

[steppingup]

Did your DSC get you anything for mothers day??

oh steppingup I feel for you, honestly, and feel the same. I agree with thinkingkindly though, that we need to say how we feel. I know my DH would try but needs a prompt and to know that it is important. he is a wonderful man but a bit rubbish at stuff like this...

We didn't have the DSC last weekend so the Mothers Day thing wasn't an 'in your face' kind of problem in our house. But - DP said to me in the morning "I don't know whether you were expecting anything for Mothers Day but I haven't organised anything". DSC are young and so would probably need a bit of organising, but my response was that I wasn't expecting anything this year as I'd gotten upset last year and had chosen to limit my expectations rather than get myself in a pickle over the whole thing - which felt sensible and wasn't said in any kind of passive aggressive way I promise!

I also said that I don't want him to do any kind of organising in future years because I don't want the DSC to feel forced into anything - if, in time, they want to do anything for me on Mothers Day then I'd prefer it be their decision. He didn't get that - he said we're responsible for raising kind and considerate people and so he felt comfy encouraging/supporting them to be kind and considerate in this way - if I wanted.

So here's the question - who do you think is right?

mdoodledoo I think its great that your DP said
'we're responsible for raising kind and considerate people and so he felt comfy encouraging/supporting them to be kind and considerate in this way'

thats a brilliant start if only my DP would think like that in trying to instill some small sense of kindness and consideration for others (ie me) in his little princess its not forcing them into doing things its showing them that just sometimes using these occassions to say thank you goes a long way

I would always choose raising kind and considerate over rude, arrogant, bad mannered spoilt every time but you have to start when their young and sadly I think its way too late for DSD to be shown how to