2.5 not listening and laughing!

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DSS is starting to push boundaries and test to see where the limits are, which is fine but I am 4 months pregnant, I have a 6 year old DS and a partner who im now worrying about as suffered from Mania last year so there is a couple of anxieties that have come up around him, plus we are moving in a month!

Im probably just slightly stressed so this little issue with DSS is the cherry on the cake,

in the mornings, he is refusing to get dressed, when i call him he completely ignores me or just laughs and say's no! My DS is very good and will try to encourage him but then that makes me feel bad as my DS is just a child he doesnt need to be doing that, so I tell not to say anything and that DSS will watch DS's behaviour and learn from so he's being a good role model for him.

He will throw his food on the food and laugh, he will throw toys, hit DS etc...these are things that I thought I could cope with but I just cant seem to think of anything! to top it all of I suffering from horrendous migraines, which I have never had in my life!

anyone had a similar or has any advice :) x

Do you mean DSS is 2.5 years old?

yes sorry, ive just read this post back to myself and its not the best! not a good day today

All I can say is that DS is 2.5 and all of the things you state are things he does on a daily/permanent basis - running away when I'm trying to dress him, throwing food/toys on the floor, constant messing around and thinking it's hilarious etc.

I guess the main differene is that obviously with DS I have the benefit of parental love to keep me sane! It must be v difficult when the child is not yours, but really his behaviour sounds v v normal for his age. Is DH helping you much - it sounds like you're struggling with the 2 boys and being pg but no mention of DP?

Yes he does but hes at work all week, and again on a weekend, its only really just started, he used to do this with his dad and grandma, now he's doing it with me, I thought yesterday that perhaps because i've got a migraine im not my usual on form self and children pick up on that don't they? Also DSS mother has no contact, she has seen him once in 8 months which makes it difficult, I think sometimes i do think to myself that im not cut out for this, although I do love him, your right it does feel very different to how I love my DS.

I guess your right, when I think back to my son it all does sound similar, apart from he never hit out.

I think im just having a bad week! and need to get a grip :)

Hi, I just wanted to send some support, my son is just under 2 and my stepson is 7, and its similar to what you describe - my son often doesn't want to get dressed/eat/whatever and has tantrums while my poor stepson tries to help and get him to do as he's told

I totally agree about your son being a good role model, I am sure the little one will catch on in the end!

Toddlers are hell... (altho mine is sleeping right now, so he's forgiven!)

aw thank you, mine is sleeping too, so ive taken advantage and caught up on ironing!!

Thank you, that has made me feel better, just to know it not just me :) I hope your gets better soon :)

my DD is nearly 2.5 and she is displaying the same traits as your DSS. It drives me to distraction some days.

hmmm... what works... reward charts (just started seems ok but not brilliant...), time out (disaster with us), cajoling (but only if I have time..), bribery (last resort but nec sometimes to just get out the door!!). This morning it was cleaning her teeth. Yesterday it was putting on her shoes. Tears, screaming every morning. deep joy.

My sympathies are with you! I have a DSS who is nearly 7 (but not with us all the time) and am nearly 3 months pregnant (with twins...) so feel your pain! but moving too?! you must be a saint!!