New start - who's with me?

[Drizzela]

hey, I've been away with my Dp and no kids for a week. It was a fabulous holiday in it's own right but one thing that was incredible was being away from any grief from his ex. We were both so calm, so busy talking about other things, so... happy.

I have decided to make a fresh start and put to rest all of my anger towards his ex and plan to deal with any hassle she throws our way with either a shrug and a smile, or if it is something that we need to stand up to her over, a to-the-point email or phone call to get our point across.

I didn't realise until we went away how much she gets under our skin and in to our daily lives. Quite sad really.

Well, no more. Who's with me?

I have a new start most days - lasts a few hours if I'm lucky! I really do try but it does seem like such an impossible task!

Please inspire me with a daily update of how you're doing - I really do wish you the best of luck.

If good intentions were enough then I would be OK but sadly they're not and neither am I.

drizzela - i'm so glad you had a lovley holiday, me and dd are going away with dp and his son for 4 nights camping in august, our first family holiday and dp's best friend and his wife are coming for two days too

((((glass)))

I am so sorry to let you down glass I tried, I really did, and the good intentions were there... Then this morning she calls to say she's found a job (after months of looking because she's completely unrealistic about what she wants, i.e. minimum hours, minimum effort etc) and she's all excited because it's going to involve 2 7 hour days and term time only work. DSD (12)is all proud of her mum and how hard working she is - as you should be about your mum, I don't blame her.

So basically this means the emotional blackmail and 'victim' antics claiming poverty all the time and moaning to DSD how unfair it is that daddy and his 'new girlfriend' are so wealthy and for her every day is a struggle will continue ad infinitum. Joy.

Oh and the presents we brought DSD back from our trip wil be going to her mothers with her tonight... because that's her 'real' home. Even though she spends equal nights here, has everything she needs and actually spends more 'awake' hours with us...Grr... new start again tomorrow

Oh and the other thing that will now continue is the behaviour of DSD expecting to be waited on hand and foot. Because her mother has barely ever worked she sleeps and faffs about all day so when DSD gets home from school her mother picks up after her, cooks for her basically does everything for her bar wipe her arse (which she actually only stopped doing for her when she was 8) so DSD expects the same treatment her and thinks we are the bad guys because we expect a little help around the house. Not chores, ust picking up after yourself etc. - We're still the bad guys even though her mum favours a slap round the face if DSD misbehaves..

I sometimes wonder how much longer I can do this for.

I adore her dad and he is literally my life (as well as my DD and DSD) but it's so unfair this cretinous waste of space has such an impact on my happiness.