The woman is insane - am going to lose the plot

[RockinSockBunnies]

Just a massive vent please at the absolute ineptness, insanity and uselessness of DSS's mother. I am at the stage of wishing I could run her over with a lorry.

Aside from all the history - making false allegations of rape, accusing DP of sexually abusing DSS, calling the Police repeatedly if her phone calls aren't answered by us, turning up on our doorstep at 6am shrieking because she'd had a missed call from a number she didn't recognise and assumed it must have to do with DSS.........Now, the woman is actively trying to undo any good work we're doing with DSS who is autistic, by seeking to jeopardise the therapy we're implementing and denying he has a problem (despite reams of paperwork from the school, intervention, the school's request for a statement and a one-to-one etc).

Have just seen her most recent emails on the subject and literally want to scream. How can she be so self-obsessed that her child's needs are ignored, whilst she indulges in more hysterics?

Sob.

Oh good lord - is he living with you? Surely if there are all these pieces of evidence in place she cant actually pretend there isnt a problem? Can you take her emails and the evidence about your dss to his care workers and ask for support to do something permanent??

Oh god I feel your pain. and thank you form the bottom of my heart for making me feel incredibly lucky that DSds mum i sonly a 7 on the kerazzy chart whilst this woman you speak of is a 10!!!!

Good luck with everything, sorry i can't be more help. The poor kid

He live with us 50% of the time. With her the other. One week on, one week off. The mass of paperwork that has been collated about DSS is vast. She is the only one with her head in the sand.

She is absolutely, wholly, totally irrational. There is no logic to her actions. Trying to figure out what motivates her leaves you destroyed. So all we can do is ignore, ignore, ignore.....

Blimey my DS is autistic and I cannot imagine him coping with one house for one week then another house for a week, and on top of that his mum ranting and raving won't be doing him any good either will it! How is your dss holding up in this situation?

Is the mum like this with other people involved (e.g. teachers) or does she reserve her awful behaviour for you and her ex?

DSS is, to his credit, not too disrupted by the routine, though he's been in it for over a year now so has adapted fairly well. Obviously it's not ideal.

The mother adores the teachers. She writes long, gushing emails to the headmaster, is over-familiar with them and idolises them. She seems to think they are marvellous for helping to coordinate the statementing process, despite that being the SENCO's job. She writes effusive emails to the SENCO. She also seems to think everyone is doing everything they possibly can for DSS (despite it taking so long to get a statement, despite the lack of coordination between agencies etc). She won't read up on the subject of autism, won't talk about it, claims that DSS's problems are mild (see the SN board for my rant there!).

Her behaviour is awful to DP, me, all of DP's family who tried for years to engage with her. She has called the Police on DP's mother for having the audacity to call her to find out what time she should collect DSS. Apparently, this was 'harassment'.

Aagghhh....

Run her over with that lorry.

Don't tempt me!