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Help! 2 step children, 1 of my own and 1 on the way

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jemmamale · 14/12/2010 09:51

I am currently 27 weeks pregnant. I have a delightful daughter from a previous relationship who is 4 and spends 60/40 with me and her Dad. My new partner has 2 children who have just moved to Portugal with their mother who are 11 and 9 years. They were born in England but following parent's divorce their mother (portuguese) upped sticks and moved home with them. I am due at the end of March 2011 and the two children have been booked on a flight in early April for 2 weeks to spend the school holidays with us. I feel quite stressed about this, 1 the baby will be around 1-2 wks old, 2 they are not well behaved children at times and require entertaining, my partner (their father) works all the hours god sends so will be working every day during the week they are here, 3 I have my own busy 4 year old to look after during this time. I was hoping they would come a little later after the birth however this is all finalised. I have tried to explain to my partner how anxious I feel with the thought of 3 children and a new baby to contend with for 2 weeks however I feel I am upsetting him by giving him the impression I dont want his children here when he misses them terribly. Its a dilema and a half and would appreciate other peoples views on this....................

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lateatwork · 15/12/2010 21:25

i often lurk on here and never really post... but this dilemma is just too close to the bone for me...

dont do it. i did. it was a total disaster that i regret to this day. delay the visit. i tried to be a super hero about it and really wish i hadnt been so bloody accomodating.

I had 1 DSS (4.5), my parents and MIL stay in 3 bed place for 2 weeks on day 2 of DD's life. Disaster.

lateatwork · 15/12/2010 21:30

oh and just to add, my mum and MIL are both disabled. My mum cant walk unaided and my MIL cant carry anything (including a kettle or cup of tea...due to dodgy arms/ wrists). My DSS is a bed wetter. I spent the first two weeks of DDs life cooking, cleaning, making beds and being constantly criticised. never ever ever again and i would caution anyone who thinks its a good idea.... like I did....

Petal02 · 01/01/2011 23:08

Just bumping this up - have there been any developments?

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