Teen DBD due to come and visit and DH said he'd pick her up as usual, but she said no, its OK BF will drive her up and can take her back the next day. ie Both with stop over together.
Now my immediate reaction was where BF was going to sleep, but it appears the plan is that they will share. DH is OK with this and she's over 16 so no problems there. Yes, I would have like to have been asked if her BF could stop over before it was arranged, since its my bloody house as well but have got past ever expecting my opinion to count on that score.
However, it turns out that Ex has no idea that BF is coming up and staying over as DBD hasn't told her that bit. I think DH should say something as we will get no end of crap if this gets out. HE says that its up to DBD to tell her mum, not him and if Ex has a problem with it, would have to take it up with DBD. As her Dad its up to him to decide whether BF can stay over in his house, not ex. I can see where he's coming from and I can also see that he wants to be the "cool, easygoing" parent, but I think this is going to brew up into a fight when (not if) ex finds out...
I think a quiet word with DBD is in order to say a) you need to ask if its OK, not assume and b) talk to your mum, but DH won't hear it. Don't know what advice, if any, there is, but would it be completely out of order to suggest that she doesn't assume she can use a visit to us to shag her boyfriend spend time with her boyfriend?
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christmasheave · 04/12/2010 12:42
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