My SDD has just moved to Scotland. She's not settled in well yet and wants to come back to England with her Mum and sister (don't know all the acronyms yet). I have what I'd call an aunty type relationship - no need for me to be a Mum. She has one already. I am sure she is desperately unhappy about the situation and the way she manages it is to refuse to go to school. Her Dad has gone up today to talk to her and I want to help - but don't know what to do to be supportive. If it was my child I know what I would do - but in this situation extending an offer of support could be seen as interfering. But I don't like to see her suffering. There is so much to consider in step families - toes not to tread on - people to keep happy in case you lose some visits - sometimes it's all just too overwhelming.