SS 10 yrs old- what to do?!

[likklemum]

I'm a fairly new SM to a 10 yr old boy who stays with me, DP and our DS (4months) for a wkend about once a month. Although DP sees him about once or twice a week.
The trouble is, is that when he's down, i'm not sure what to do with him. He loves football and is always on the playstation with my DP. How can I get involved? Do I have to study football and master the blasted PS?
We go on a day trip (ie swimming/to a castle/ to the beach etc) once during his stay, but naturally he is very much with my DP. Aswell as this, Im usually looking after DS so they can have Qtime together. But I feel so out of it.

Is this a relationship that will grow with time?
Can I( do anything to help it grow?

When you say your're a "fairly new SM" how new is this?

I have to say from what you have written it sounds as if things are ticking along relatively nicely for all of you so I don't really see any reason for you to change anything. Your relationship will, I'm certain, grow in time as all relationships do regardless of whether it's with an adult or a child. It sounds as if you are happy to leave the two of them to their football and play station sometimes but you also get a day out all together as a family too, which I assume your ss enjoys, so I would say simply carry on as you are. You seem to be doing everything right by letting them have their quality time together whilst also joining in by going on days out with them and your own ds. By doing this you are already helping your relationship with your ss to grow

As stepmums, we all feel out of it very often - I think that's perfectly normal (I've only been a stepmum for 14 months tho so if anyone wants to disagree then feel free!). Being a stepmum is without doubt the hardest thing I've ever had to do - I think you're doing fine chuck

Sorry i took so long to reply NotActuallyAMum. Thank you for your words of Wisdom. Only been a SM for about 18months now. Its a tough job, but I'm glad I'm ticking the right boxes re giving them time, days out etc.