DSD is 13 and has no hobbies or interests. After school everyday she just comes home and sits watching TV all night. She never goes out on a weekend either, just hangs around the house permanantly.
Its more difficult for me now that the summer holidays are here as she's still not arranging to go out with friends etc like she said she would. They have been on holiday for 2 weeks and she has been out ONCE and that was only because I forced the issue.
She's supposed to go out with her mum once a fortnight and even that is starting to come to a standstill. She keeps refusing to go because she would rather stay in bed until 1pm and then laze around in her pyjamas all day.
Last week I reminded DP to ask his ex wife what time she was picking DSD up, he did and then went to "break the news" to DSD who kicked up a fuss saying she wasn't going because she needed a rest.
DP is now saying I need to be more tolerant of DSD but I never get a break from her. She is hanging around the house literally 24/7. DP used to arrange a babysitter now and again for a saturday night when my DC go to their dad's house but he's stopped doing that now too so even when my kids are not here, we still have her here and can never get any time to ourselves.
DP has now said he's no longer going to force her to go out with her mother meaning she will be around the house even more.
Its not that I don't like her, I just wish I could get a break from her now and again like I do from my own kids.
I know I'm probably being unreasonable but I'm finding this really hard to deal with. It's actually making me want to move out.