I just dont know what to do...Part 2

[gemma200809]

Hi,

I recently posted a thread about not enjoying being a step parent ect. Well the update is that I have ended the relationship with my Daughters Dad and were moving out of our rented house the 1st August. I explained to him that I just cant carry on being miserable and not enjoying being around his kids. So we are going our separate ways. Neither of us really want this but its the only answer. He says he understands why Im fed up with the amount of grief we get off his ex but he is gutted.
Im letting him have the £600 deposit we put down on the house to set himself up with somewhere to go and im going to my mums until I save up some money to move out.
I do feel relieved that Im not a Step Mum anymore and Im only my Daughters Mum and only have to spend my money on MY Daughter

Hi Gemma, I've just read Part 1 of your story, to see what the background is. I'm really sorry it's come to this, but I can totally understand where you're coming from. I find it hard enough having my husband's 16 yr old son on alternative weekends, so god knows what it's like to be in the situation you describe. But if you dare admit to finding step-parenting a challenge, you often get painted as a Myra Hindley type character. People will often say that you knew what you were getting into, but that knowledge doesn't prepare you for day-to-day life, nor does it help if the situation changes or worsens. When the man you love has children who you just can't get along with, then you have to make some difficult decisions. I wish you all the very best for the future.

Good point about still being together
they won't live at home forever

Thanks for you support and comments I dont think it is possible to carry on being together but not living together as I dont want anything to do with his ex partner and i dont want to have to share the grief she aims at us so its better if we stay apart. However we are both fine with eachother and have split everything equally. Sometimes I think this is the only way for some families.