Under 12s football.

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My son has played football since he was very small. He now plays to a pretty decent level. He plays Saturday and Sunday for two different teams. The Saturday team isn’t continuing next season so for the past 6 weeks he has been trialling for a new team with another boy from his Saturday team. Dh is very involved in junior football (coaches) and arranged all this for both boys as he knows the new club/coach.
After the first couple of sessions ds decided he loved the new club and would like to transfer over for both days as did the other boy. We told the coach they said fine.
After 3 weeks they were both offered a spot on the Sunday team which was great and the higher ability team.
The coach was a bit more cagey about the Saturday place.
Last night we found out Ds friend has a spot but Ds doesn’t. The coach said a boy had left who plays centre mid (friends position and not Ds’s) so they had offered it to ds friend.

He has said there is one other boy who has been flakey this season and had been given and ultimatum to with pull his socks up or leave. His dad is thinking about it for a couple of days. If he goes Ds is in. But I think this is unlikely.

I know this is totally reasonable from the coaches but Ds is so gutted my heart hurts for him.

I really need you all to tell me to woman up it’s bloody kids football and people have much worse stuff going on but I just feel so shit for Ds.

How doI help him feel better?

I think you have to be honest and say they’d like to have him, but his position isn’t available, but maybe soon. Over the summer clubs all have a bit of a swop around so a place in another team may become available, especially if he’s known to be a good player.

Can you look around for another Saturday team, or try something new such as basketball for variety. My ds’s coach changed at that age and the new one obviously favoured other players so son switched sports and hasn’t looked back.

Thanks so much for replying. Yes that’s a possibility and something dh said could happen. I have said to ds it’s purely position based as the coaches have offered him a place on the other team and at the end of the day there are only 13 spaces on the team.

Ds also does Thai boxing (we heard a lot of punching kicking of the bag last night!)
He has a plan B for a Saturday team but it is an option he is less keen on.

If I was listening to myself I would think get a grip it’s kids sport but it’s just hard when it means so much to ds.