How do I get my daughter to be more competitive in sports?

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She's interested but I watch and she's so polite. I want her to be a little competitive where she's making the tackles etc

Honestly I am not sure you can if it is not in her nature. She may lack a bit of confidence and depending on her age that may come. Ds23 has never been competitive but has always played a team sport and just has always enjoyed being part of a team. Ds17 is very competitive in sport and always has been.

It's not about you.

Does she need to be? As long as she is enjoying it, then I wouldn’t stress.

Is she enjoying herself? It's either in their nature or it's not, she may develop more confidence and a competitive edge as she continues to train/play or she may not. Not a lot you can do about it.

Why do "you" want her to be more competitive in making tackles? Surely she's the one playing the sport and it's up to her to play it in a way she feels comfortable and enjoys?

How old is she?

She might not be the sort of person who wants to compete in team sports. I shudder at the memory of it myself.

I have 2 DC. When they play football, DC1 is polite and holds back. DC2 gets stuck straight in. DC2 is the better player but DC1 is a great team player in terms of passing the ball, encouraging etc. They are both having fun and getting exercise.

Does she enjoy it? If so, I would just let her continue as she is. If not, then let her stop the activity and try something else.

I have never enjoyed team sports and am not remotely competitive. I tried a few sports as a youngster but never cared whether I won or not 😂 (I am competitive with other things- board games and weightlifting for example!)

I'm glad I posted thank you guys. She's starting to enjoy netball but didn't really enjoy football.

In netball she's had 3 games and now on the 4th she's getting a little confident. I was a bit worried that she was wasn't getting the ball enough...if not hardly ever...but I guess it's something that will just happen.

Chase her with a flaming stick.