Aggressive sounding adult on the sideline

[Greenmayleaves]

My dad is that parent on the sideline who 'encourages' during matches with an aggressive angry tone. He probably doesn't mean to sound aggressive but he really does.

When my DB was young and played, we had to listen to it all the time. We have talked about it as adults and he knows we all hated it.

Now me and Dsiblings have children that play. I never give him details of matches so he can't come. He found out yesterday about a match and told Dsis he was coming. We knew what would be coming.

A couple of minutes in, dnephew got the ball and he did it 'come on name, come on name, come on', - really loud, really aggressive in tone, that kind where spit was nearly coming out when he was saying it. He was standing beside me so I immediately said 'stop it, you can't do that'. He went quiet then left after about 15 mins without saying bye to anyone.

I know I did the right thing by the children, he's not helping or encouraging them by using that tone but I feel bloody guilty today.

I never experienced this ( I wasn’t involved in sports) but it doesn’t matter what other people usually felt - you and your DB didn’t like it so your Dad should have been respectful to your views and should have listened.
Dont feel guilty at all, your words were absolutely fine. Your Dad might disagree with you but there was nothing disrespectful or impolite in what you’ve said. The problem is that he can’t take things not being his way that’s why he left.