Spin class etiquette

[SummerInSun]

I'm posting for DH. He goes to a lot of spin classes. Occasionally he see women struggling to adjust the bikes before the class because they aren't strong enough / don't have the right technique to pull out the various levers and unscrew the screws to change seat hight, handlebar height, etc.

His question - is he a patronising git if he offers to help, or just a friendly fellow spinner? Alternatively, if he doesn't offer to help - is he a jerk for not offering, or just minding his own business?

What do the women of Mumsnet think?

Meh -
I spin 5 times a week. Very occasionally I need help so I ask for it. I’d say it’s lovely he’s ready to help - but to wait until he’s asked. It’s also what the instructor is PAID to do.

Yup. DH always waits to be asked, but this morning he was sitting next to a women who was struggling for 2-3 minutes and felt like he was a jerk for not offering to help. This was before the instructor was in the room, he arrives early.

Summer… is your husband Andrew🤣?

IMO always nice to politely suggest if their bike setup is really out

Nope, not Andrew! But nice to know their are other men out there who help.
It's not setup, it's not having the physical strength to unscrew the things to adjust the bike if the last user screwed it up super tight.

Arghhh! There, not their

When I first started spin I was in this situation and now I will just blatantly ask any man for help. Before I got the confidence to ask, I was in situations where I'd be struggling and no man would offer and I used to think they were arseholes.
Now I know they were probably too scared to intervene because the same men will now regularly jump in to help.

I fear there's no good answer to this- for every woman who is pleased with the offer of help there will be another who finds it a bit patronising. Your husband's choice is whether he'd rather be considered an unhelpful jerk or a patronising jerk 😉

I spin a lot and the levers are a nightmare. I feel bad asking men to help so will always welcome offers of help.

I'm a strong independent woman and I hate adjusting the bikes because whilst usually I can do it fine by myself, sometimes I can't make it budge and then I feel embarrassed.

If he didn't offer, I'd be glad he hadn't noticed me struggling, but if he did offer, provided he was friendly not patronising, I'd be very grateful

Well it’s not THAT difficult, it’s something you can get on, test out, get off to readjust if necessary. The bikes I use don’t require Herculean efforts to adjust and also it’s why there’s an instructor there.
Sorry, I’d prefer he stayed on his bike and just worried about himself, if I need help I’ll ask.