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Do you have questions around online safety and wellbeing for your children? Mumsnet and Google will be taking your questions to an expert panel - £200 voucher to be won

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GraceEMumsnet · 11/10/2022 09:21

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This discussion is now closed, thanks for all of your questions

Google and Mumsnet CEO, Justine Roberts, will be taking your questions to a panel of parliamentarians and industry experts on the 5th December to help tackle parents’ concerns around online safety and internet wellbeing. The discussion will cover mental wellbeing, advice for talking to your children and practical tips on how parents can find the right balance online.

  • Everyone who shares a question on the thread below will be entered into a prize draw.
  • One lucky user will win a £200 voucher provided by Mumsnet.
  • Well be back after the event on the 18th October to share the discussion

Thanks and good luck with the prize draw!

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AntiqueRug · 15/10/2022 20:51

How much is actually been done to protect children from adults trying to contact them online for malicious purposes? Are the police given enough resources and support to ensure that these individuals are caught?

Pumpkin20222 · 16/10/2022 08:45

Do the parliamentarians and industry experts on the panel allow their children to use social media, and at what age?

GraceEMumsnet · 11/11/2022 09:47

Hi everyone, thanks very much for your patience! The event has been rescheduled to the 5th of December.

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Jenn3112 · 11/11/2022 14:06

I'm also concerned about the spread of websites and social media groups that promote poor mental health, self harm and suicide. What are the government and big companies doing to remove content and restrict access for children to these sites? What positive steps can be adopted? I have seen a browser extension that encourages anyone searching for harming or suicide related words to pause and consider and it gives crisis numbers. Why hasn't this been widely adopted in our schools, colleges and universities?

RedWingBoots · 12/11/2022 18:30

Is the government going to regulate social media companies such as Meta owners of Facebook, WhatsApp and Instagram ensuring under 18s have no right to legally access social media companies services. Or is the government going to continue to be reactive like they were with the regulation of tobacco, so allowing more children to be harmed/die from their interactions with social media like Molly Russell?

Why is the government leaving the policing of children's interactions with others on social media to parents and schools, when most adults are simply unaware of the dangers of social media until it is too late? There are plenty of cases where the police, social services and even the Courts have to become involved in a child's life due to their interactions with unscrupulous adults and even between children themselves on social media. Sites like Tiktok, Snapchat, Instagram and WhatsApp are used to groom children and get them involved in crimes.

RedWingBoots · 12/11/2022 18:36

I should add I work in technology and while my questions seem extreme I work and have worked with many companies who employ individuals whose roles are to make content not only user friendly but to retain and expand their user base. There is evidence from the US that certain social media companies have engaged in these practices deliberately targeting children.

Dizzywizz · 12/11/2022 18:42

We have two boys, different ages so different concerns about what they watch. Is there any way to ensure they don’t access things that are suitable for different ages, without having separate logins for them? Thanks

Elwynsmum · 13/11/2022 08:11

I want my primary school-aged son to be able to use the internet competently for educational and entertainment purposes on a variety of devices.

I want him to be able to do safely, protected from harmful content and exploitative people. I am no fool; we have parental controls at home and on our own devices, I read reviews of various apps and I’m a sufficiently competent parent to say no to those I deem insecure and stick to it.

He has already been contacted by suspect adults online and been shown porn by the older sibling of one of his friends.

I’m doing everything I can to reasonably keep him safe while allowing him the benefits of the technological age.

We need a system where devices/browsers can be registered to minors and then any publisher allowing unmonitored communication or harmful content to be accessed on them prosecuted in the same manner that we would expect a retailer selling cigarettes/alcohol/age rated films to be penalised. Why has this not been introduced already?

GetTheGoodLookingGuy · 13/11/2022 08:46

Will/can anything be done to stop children signing up for social media they are below the age limit for by just saying they're old enough? A child in my class is on tiktok and posts videos of themself. They're seven!

hannahbjm · 16/11/2022 11:06

How do i deal with my sons constant asking for snapchat? He is 12 in March, all of his friends have it and is it safe? Should he have it? At the moment I have said no but I dont seem to have any information for and against it. Thank you

AutumnCrow · 16/11/2022 23:33

Children in Need (fgs) has given money to Mermaids who were until recently represented by a man who had no business being near children online at all.

So how does that loophole get closed NOW?

What with the Cass Review and all.

LAURY1986 · 19/11/2022 21:25

My dad has passed away but I don’t want to leave my mom on her own :-(

LAURY1986 · 19/11/2022 21:27

Please help, my dad passed away 5 weeks ago. I’ve also been a home bird and enjoy being at home. About 3 months before he died I had pretty much moved in with my partner but I just can’t leave her for more than one night at a time.
It breaks my heart she would be home alone. My partner has been understanding so far but going forward I have no idea what I’m going to do.

CatNamedEaster · 19/11/2022 21:42

I have no idea what or how I should be going about talking to my son about online safety. Are there various sites we should like at for educational resources?

Or (by the sounds of this thread) is it basically up to parents to be scrabbling around in the dark playing catch up and hoping their child isn't already being exposed to inappropriate content/people because kids' use of tech is moving faster than some parents can keep up with?

mugglewump · 21/11/2022 13:24

My concern is that the whole focus is on parents policing and limiting what their kids do online rather than providing good education about the possible dangers. I see it as akin to them being out and about unaccompanied; we choose an appropriate age when we let our chdrn go out with friends, cross roads, use public transport and, by the teenage years, be out at night. We do this because we know we have taught them how to be safe. Surely, the same applies to online? Shielding will not protect them because at some point they will be online and possibly surreptitiously if we have not given them access.

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tillytown · 24/11/2022 06:42

I have a question, are there any extra steps/help available to help stop vulnerable people being taken advantage of by online gambling/games/apps. I know a few young people in real life who have lost a lot of money on paid to enter competitions, lotteries, and in-game app purchases, all of them have autism and none of them realise A. how much they were spending, and B. that these type of games are a scam.
The worst offenders for guilting these kids into handing over their money are charity lotteries who don't seem to have any age verification on their sites.

AllNightDiner · 24/11/2022 19:35

The number of random and irrelevant posts on this quite short thread excellently illustrates the point I wanted to raise, which is that too many parents are really not very internet-savvy themselves. I was an early adopter of internet technology but it's not my professional area of expertise and 25+ years on, with teenagers, the idea that I would be capable of even knowing what they're seeing and doing online, still less able to police or prevent anything, is just laughable. They can out-tech me standing on their heads and with both hands tied behind their backs, and we all know it.

There's lots I can do, like discussing contentious issues with them and creating an environment at home where they know they can ask for help, but we all know that kind of approach doesn't always do the heavy lifting that you need or want it to do, and I can't control all the other social influences in their lives that might have an equal and opposite effect.

What I would like to see is free, readily available skills training for parents, perhaps delivered by schools or via local authorities, so that we could all get up to date with what our kids are likely to be into and up to, how to install checks and balances in our home computing set-up, what vulnerabilities tech crime looks to exploit etc, plus niche advice/training for people whose kids are using advanced tech, e.g. Linux set-ups etc. I see this training partly as being about tech skills, but also drawing on the skills base of police and child protection type agencies, and envisage that parents would need to update or refresh every year or two.

So my question is, what appetite is there in parliament for facilitating and funding this kind of training so that parents can play a knowledgeable role in protecting and preparing their kids for life online. I don't think you can leave it all up to schools, but the reality atm is that, for most of us, our kids are so much more knowledgeable that they're being left to police themselves...or not.

Believeitornot · 24/11/2022 22:12

Why is the government so reluctant to properly do something about online safety? Do they listen to online companies who persuade them it’s all fine? When it clearly isn’t? Even things like Spotify aren’t safe - they have porn podcasts etc which cannot be blocked or filtered! The children’s version of Spotify is for very young kids so I cannot even use that for my 13 year old. It’s disgusting.

AutumnCrow · 24/11/2022 22:17

That's a very good post from @AllNightDiner ^^

Idontmeanto · 25/11/2022 06:05

My son’s school send out an e safety newsletter, but a child’s world is only as safe as the least engaged/concerned parent. There is too much onus on parents and not enough on publishers, unlike any other form of media and that urgently needs to change.

Idontmeanto · 09/12/2022 13:38

Did this we chat ever take place?

Idontmeanto · 09/12/2022 13:39

Panel, sorry!

RhiannonEMumsnet · 14/12/2022 16:30

Hi everyone, thank so much for all your questions - they helped inform a really open and interesting discussion in Parliament last week. You can find more info from the event here.

danascully96 · 15/12/2022 00:36

We’re we entered into a voucher draw?

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