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Tips for settling a new dog into their home - £200 voucher to be won

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LibbyMumsnet · 26/09/2024 16:46

One of our Mumsnet families, with kids aged 6 and 10, is preparing to adopt a 2-year-old Labrador. They live in a house with a small garden and are looking for your top tips to make this transition as smooth as possible.

  • How did you introduce your dog to your kids and home?
  • What strategies helped your new dog feel safe and settled quickly?
  • Any advice for balancing family life with the needs of an energetic dog?
  • How can everyone, including the kids, help the dog adjust?
  • How did you handle walking and socialising with other dogs?
  • What was your experience leaving dogs at home alone? How did you reduce stress?

All advice is welcome - you don’t have to have had a rescue or a Labrador!
Share your best tips and you could win a £200 VEX voucher for a store of your choice!

Thanks for your help and good luck.

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DanBenandBud · 08/10/2024 10:01

My tips would be to let them have a sniff around your home, bring their old bed with you, so they have a safe place to sleep, and feel that a familiar item is with them. Bring old toys and the same food. I had a visit to our dog with it's owners who wanted a remhoming to be successful and they wanted to choose the right 'parents' for their beloved pet.

DinkyDaffodil · 08/10/2024 20:35
  • How did you introduce your dog to your kids and home?
We met him at his first home, where he had to be rehomed due to loosing their tennancy. We felt it important for the dog to meet our children 3 times before we committed to taking the dog - it has to be a family decision.
  • What strategies helped your new dog feel safe and settled quickly?
His old bed, and a sniff around our home.
  • Any advice for balancing family life with the needs of an energetic dog?
Have a rota for walking the dog before school/work,and play with the dog, but wind down before bed so he knows this is quiet time and
  • How can everyone, including the kids, help the dog adjust?
Loving the dog, being kind, offering treats, and sitting with the dog when he looked sad and bewilderd in the first few days
  • How did you handle walking and socialising with other dogs?
Taking to our local park and having a harness lead
  • What was your experience leaving dogs at home alone? How did you reduce stress?
We played music, left out toys and had a anti stress plug in.
pushchairprincess · 10/10/2024 08:02

My tips from experience of rehoming are to spend time with the previous owners or kennel staff to learn about the character of the dog, their likes, dislikes, walk times, food preferences, their favourite toys, how they have been trained and what commands and words they recognise. Doing this makes their transition easier for them and you.

MerlotStreep · 12/10/2024 12:37

I have rescued two dogs and these are my tips:

Consider whether you really have the time, suitable home and patience to adopt a rescue. Do you have enough space, a place where the dog can be alone sometimes? A garden? Are you prepared for the potential medical and behavioural issues a rescue dog will most likely have?

Make sure you get as much background on your rescue dog as possible. Research the breed or mix of breeds if that is the case. For example, a terrier breed is very likely to view cats as prey. Not in every case, my ten year old adopted Jack Russell lived happily with my two cats but generally, not a good idea! Also look at breeds that will match your current lifestyle. So if you are not particularly active, dont get a high energy breed rescue.

Prepare children. Hopefully they already know how to approach dogs but if not, explain that it may take time for the rescue to warm up to them. To not lean over the rescue, to stroke under the chin rather than on the head and to respect the dogs space and things. If the children are very young, consider whether a rescue dog is really the right thing to do. Absolutely no dog is 100% safe around children so be sure you will always be around and have measures in place to monitor the dog and the children when together. Always.

Look at vets and insurance. As said, it is not uncommon for rescue dogs to have medical issues and certain breeds are more prone to medical issues. Also look into dog foods, what will suit your breed of dog the best.

When you first bring your rescue home, if possible try to have the first day and night with just you and the rescue. If the kids can have a sleep over with grand parents or if not, keep them away from your dog for the first 24 hours. If the dog has any comfort items from the rescue it came from, put them in the main room you expect your dog to spend their time in. Let the dog sniff and explore one room at a time, as much as they want or need to. Show them their food and water and where they will go to the toilet. Have items of clothing or blankets that belong to your kids around, so the dog can get used to their scents. Try to work out your dogs motivation style for behaviour, whether they are food orientated and so forth. Give lots of positive reinforcement with their style throughout the day.

When it is time to introduce the dog to the children, take the dog for a walk first. Let them burn off some energy and this will hopefully mean the dog is a little calmer and chilled out. With my children, I had them come into the room and sit on the floor, side on from the dog. Body language can be really important in how a dog responds to new people. They all had a little handful of my dogs favourite treat. It did not take long as all for my dog to be very interested in these tasty smelling children! Lots of treats, gentle under the chin strokes and he soon decided they were his new favourite people. I kept the initial meeting short, ten mins and then another ten minutes and so on until I was sure he and they were all happy to be in each others company. Knowing a dogs body language is also super helpful, to understand whether your dog is feeling overwhelmed or stressed.

My rescue dog was very reactive to other dogs when going out on walks. The rescue had warned me and I knew that his previous owner had dealt with it by just picking him up (small dog!). Knowing his breed and having experience helped me quickly get him able to walk without being picked up around other dogs, though he never did become fully comfortable with other dogs other than walking past them. I kept him on a short leash and was very aware of my own reactions when I saw another dog approaching. If i started acting anxious, then so would he. I had his favourite treats and kept feeding him them and walking firmly past with no real reaction to his barking. This worked well for him and walks quickly became much easier.

One thing I have learned from having rescue dogs, is that sometimes unwanted behaviours show up only once the dog feels settled in and secure. This can be a couple of weeks to a couple of months.

When it comes to leaving a rescue dog alone, try to avoid doing that for as long as you can manage to ensure the dog is settled, with a steady routine. Take the dog for a walk before hand and have plenty of enrichment toys to keep him entertained. A kong stuffed with treats for example. My house was always quite noisy with kids etc so I would leave the tv on for background noise. Make sure the dog has access to their safe space and water bowl.

My boy I adopted at ten years old was with us for 4 years before a health condition caught up with him. When I first got him, the rescue told me he wouldnt be able to live with cats or another dog and couldnt be walked or socialise with other dogs. By the time he passed on, he had lived with two cats, another dog he adored and only marginally wanted to murder other dogs when out on walks. Not bad for an old boy jack russell terrier. He was never a huge fan of my kids, that was my other rescue, but he accepted them and they respected his boundaries. He was my little shadow and I miss him very much!

benjaminjamesandgraham · 12/10/2024 16:33

Meet the dog in its old setting with the children, and let them smell you, get to know the dog and it's temperament - is the dog bouncy and loud or quiet and sedate ? which personality do you want, learn the commands it knows for toilet and walks. Take the dog to your home for a trial day before you commit. Get pet insurance !

Newlittlerescue · 12/10/2024 16:40

Two tips for a rescue:

(1) build up closing the door and leaving the room as soon as you arrive home (as in within the first 10 mins). Very short time to start with (20 secs) building up to at least 20 mins over the course of the day.

(2) Light a fire (if you re-home in winter!). Even if they have never seen a fire before, they immediately relax and chill out in the warmth. Seems to help them settle.

SmallistChild · 13/10/2024 17:31

We rescued a black labrador. She came from a drug addict who never left her alone so us leaving her was a problem. Our previous dog was fine with being left for 5 hours max. We did rhis once I came home to carnage.

So we gave her the box room and when we went out shut her in their with a snack, toys, bed and ball machine. We gradually increased the rooms she was allowed in when we were out and she is now used to us going out.

Teaching sit and stay was the first command we really tried hard on. She is perfect at that now.

They are lovely dogs, very obedient and affectionate. They are not the most popular dog in the UK for no reason.

Be careful with feeding ours is not that food orientated, but some will beg. Our last dog a beagle used to.

They need loads of exercise and are super smart. We have an automatic feeder and bin. She has worked out how to open both. She can also open doors.

Enjoy they are we lovely dogs.

Maiyakat · 13/10/2024 17:36

Managed the children's expectations, the dog may be quite nervous to start with and not want to interact straight away.

Keep a close eye on the dog and notice the signs of when they've started to have enough and be over stimulated, have a safe quiet space they can go to have a break.

Involve the children in training the dog, again manage their expectations!

DanBenandBud · 14/10/2024 15:54

Try a plug in soother - we can't smell it but it helps calm the dog until they have settled.

lovemyflipflops · 15/10/2024 11:43

Lots of good tips above, and concur with them - we leave the TV in for our dog, along with some toys and we have programmed our alexa to play music when the dog barks. when rehoming allow roaming and sniffing and use the same commands the dog was trained with.

Ilostmyhalo · 15/10/2024 15:08

My tip is be absolutely sure you can cope and have time, money and change in routine for a new member of your family - think about grooming costs, pet insurance, vets fees for inoculations, extra cleaning, dog food costs, noise levels if you get a yapper, no more lie ins, factor in kennelling costs when booking a holiday.
Yes dogs are part of your family, but knowing friends who rehomed a chihuahua have massive regrets- it barks at EVERTHING is aggressive, and they did not factor in all of the costs they are now landed with.

CaptainBeanThief · 15/10/2024 15:21

The trick is actually to start even before the dog is brought home.
The children need to be taught how to settle around the dog.
This is a scary experience for the dog.
I would definitely recommend all the family meeting on a close to the home but neutral area like a field or a park so the whole family can walk back together - rather than the dog just being thrown into this new house and that's it.

The children need to be taught how to behave around the dog.
They need to learn behaviours of aggression in dogs and signs of when the dog may need to rest or when the dog may want some peace and quiet.
I would also really recommend getting a crate set up for the dog and bringing a blanket or teddy so he has a familiar scent and learns that his crate can be his safe space.
I have a high energy breed myself and they don't need 10 hours of walking a day - they obviously need off lead and different places and adventures to go on but they need a lots of mental stimulation in the home, plenty of toys and brain games. A useful brain game I have taught my cocker spaniel is a "go find command" where I hide his ball or treats etc and I say go find and he searches. It really tires him out.

Also keep up the training! He is still a young dog in his brain!!
The first couple of days, I would leave him to approach you, the kids. Don't overwhelm the dog.
Best of luck.

ErnestClementine · 16/10/2024 15:08

Treats are important - buy all the treats and keep them on you at all times! Reward for weeing where they should, dropping what they shouldn't have, not chewing something they want to chew.
And photos - take all the photos of your new doggy pal.

oddbox · 17/10/2024 12:15

How did you introduce your dog to your kids and home?
Ask the kids to 'ignore the dog' - let them have a sniff around but don't overwhelm them. Let them come to the kids!

What strategies helped your new dog feel safe and settled quickly?
Give them their safe space in the home with their blankets, bed etc. Cuddles and snacks!

Any advice for balancing family life with the needs of an energetic
dog? Get the kids involved in walks - good for everyone!

How can everyone, including the kids, help the dog adjust?
Give the kids their own jobs/tasks for the dog - whether that's getting their meals ready, putting their toys away at the end of the dog. Having a sense of responsibility is super important.

How did you handle walking and socialising with other dogs?
Walk on the lead and in open spaces. Be cautious until you know dogs are confident enough with other dogs.

What was your experience leaving dogs at home alone? How did you reduce stress?
Keep radio on, leave them in their safe space. Keep outings super short whilst young.

DawnAttwood · 17/10/2024 12:25

Remember how scary everything will be for the dog, and take everything as slowly as possible. Be prepared to adapt - often as a rescue dog becomes more comfortable and settled in a new place they'll start exhibiting new behaviours. Don't count on being able to leave them alone for any length of time at the beginning - you can make separation anxiety a lot worse by leaving a dog alone before its ready. And finally don't force walks until you and they are comfortable - there's plenty of enrichment activity you can do in a house/garden if you or your dog aren't confident about going for long walks for the first few weeks.

JacCharlton · 17/10/2024 13:00

My tips are for when walking the dog, children will want to hold the lead, but find out first if the dog pulls, or runs towards other dogs, if so when settled in, get advice on training on a lead, with a small garden the dog would need lots of walks, and if the children are involved, we need to know it won't pull and run off, or pull them over or into a road.
......as well as the tips for scents from home, sniffing around and having a place to call it's own.

rubster1 · 17/10/2024 16:55

Give them lot of love and cuddles, but also remember to leave them, even for 10 minutes at a time so they get used to it and praise them when your return. Slowly start to increase the time you leave them. Never had any issues with sleep doing this!

DinkyDaffodil · 18/10/2024 14:47

It's a big dog, with lots of shedding - please consider that for a lab - even after you've brushed, hair gets everywhere. I'd try to not get the dog too excited, jumping up to you can knock a small child over and be scary. Be calm with the dog, know it's routine, grooming, feeding, when it's due at the vets for inoculations, what food it has. Keep everything the same while it settles, and give the dog its own space to sleep - dependant on whether it slept on the bed in the previous house - then good luck with that one.
We never wanted out dog to be a 'bed' dog - but gradually he did - it was like having another baby - crying and howing downstairs until we gave in (which we did for the rest of the house who needed their sleep and the neighbours)

lillypopdaisyduke · 19/10/2024 08:51

My tips are after you are ABSOLUTLY sure you are ready for this, a dog is a BIG commitment, like having another child, with the extra work, time and cost - and the obvious joy they bring.
Let them sniff you and the home, bring something from their old home, get to know the temperament of the dog, what scares it, what if loves, (with November 5th around the corner this is important). Give them lots of love and praise, using words they recognise - good boy/girl - use this lots

Britanniaa · 21/10/2024 09:43

my tip, is look to getting a smaller dog - a labrador will need a lot of walking, and time, the garden needs to be larger for a dog of this size. A smaller dog would be more manageable. On the plus side a labrador would be easier to train - BUT when left along an become bored and become very destructive.

TheGirlWithGlassFeet · 21/10/2024 15:41

Have a place which is just for the dog that ideally is away from the hustle and bustle of the house. If dog needs some space or quiet they can take themselves there.

2 year old lab is going to be very energetic so I would suggest taking the dog out for a morning walk first thing so it is a bit calmer around the children.

user1466028899 · 24/10/2024 11:51

Most dogs are the same as the rest of us. They have the same hopes, dreams and aspirations. It is my firm belief that they should be treated in a manner that reflects this. Positive discrimination in the workplace is quite in order, I think, to give them a leg up into some more senior management rolls. I knew an 8 year old cockapoo who'd tried on numerous occasions, unsuccessfully, to land a job as an events manager in the home counties. This sort of problem could well be addressed with more tailored university courses that take into account the particular needs of these good natured animals. Am I alone?

jacqui5366 · 26/10/2024 14:20

I think 6 and 10 is a good age to get a dog for the first time, and not to have the puppy housetraining stage. My tips would be to ask for the dogs old routine with regards to food times - once twice or three times a day, and walks, where it prefers to poo, does it pull on the lead - get a harness if so - helps you and the dog until this can be controlled better. Let the dog sniff around your home.

benjaminjamesandgraham · 28/10/2024 10:44

My tips would be to get insurance before you rehome, an ill dog can wipe you out financially. Also allow time to adjust, be patient, they may react agressively, be calm around them until they settle. Dogs are intelligent and love to live as part of a pack, so allow them time - it's as new to them as it is to you.

ButterOllocks · 29/10/2024 17:46

My tips would be to see the dog in it's home/kennel more than once to see how bouncy, energetic and noisy it is - an hyperactive dog is a lot to deal with. Take the dog to a dog trainer if it is - having a dog is extending your household and a trained dog is best for both of you.