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Tell Co-op Legal Services about your experiences with making a will - £300 voucher to be won! NOW CLOSED

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EmmaMumsnet · 05/09/2017 17:21

If you and your partner have children together, thinking ahead to a time when the unimaginable has happened and both you and your partner have passed away, leaving your child (or children) in need of a Legal Guardian, is an awful conversation to think about, let alone have. However, Co-op Legal Services know that if you make formal arrangements in relation to a will, you are able to name the Legal Guardians of your children instead of the Court making a decision you might not have wished for. With that in mind, Co-op Legal Services would like to know your experiences with making a will.

James Antoniou, Head of Wills at Co-op Legal Services, says: “As parents, we recognise the need to protect our children throughout our lifetimes. Making a will and providing for guardianship is an extension of that protection, ensuring that our wishes are clear about who will be responsible for their upbringing.

If you are interested in starting your wills journey with the Co-op, start your will online now"

Do you currently have a will? Or is it still an ongoing process? How did you go about making some of the important decisions that a will requires? Do you have the conversations surrounding a will with your family?

So whether you’ve set up one already or looking to begin making one, share your experiences below and you will be entered into a prize draw to win a £300 voucher of your choice (from a list).

Thanks, and good luck

MNHQ

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Tell Co-op Legal Services about your experiences with making a will - £300 voucher to be won! NOW CLOSED
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Lydia30 · 19/09/2017 20:45

Neither myself or my husband have a will but it is something we need to do. We are in an awkward situation as we have guardianship of 2 grandchildren so we should work out what would happen to them as we also we have 3 adult children and another 7 grandchildren. But the 2 we have would take priority when it comes to the house.

Minnibix · 19/09/2017 20:48

I have not completed a will yet, I really want to get this sorted, but don't know where to start, it just seams so difficult.

Jocelynne123 · 19/09/2017 21:23

I have full custody of my daughter and have always had a will. As she got older I discussed with her who she would want to live with. She picked my best friend, her godmother. Who was more than happy to have her. My friend who is amazing was willing to fight for her and everything was left to my daughter when she turned 21. It was hard to tell her father and grandparents her wishes but they eventually agreed. I think it's very important to involve your child once they are old enough. Xx

CGORST · 19/09/2017 21:39

I was a carer for my mum but she wouldn't make a will and thought that if she told people what she wanted that would be ok. She wanted me to be able to carry on living in the house but when she died, because there was no will what she had told people meant nothing and I nearly ended up homeless. It's a difficult decision to make but it's probably one of the most important things to do. If you haven't made a will and something happens to your and/or your partner what happens to your children? It's best that they would go and live with the people you want to look after them if you aren't there to do it.

baconbap · 19/09/2017 21:53

after leaving the form we got via Unison on the table for a year we finally filled it out on line and are waiting to hear back from solicitors

Liz7589 · 19/09/2017 22:19

I have one, hardest thing ever to do, but the piece of mind you feel once it's sorted is worth the upset you feel whilst doing it.

malisa · 19/09/2017 23:11

We did mirror wills a few years ago but since then a lot changed so all needs to be updated. I have been putting all aside but now I feel this should be sorted as priority. It doesn't cost a lot but would give us a piece of mind and only our children would benefit.

sadiewoohoo · 19/09/2017 23:12

There was a lot of bad blood after my divorce so I made a will then for my own peace of mind

Carriecakes80 · 19/09/2017 23:34

We do actually need to update our will as we have had two more children since we last had ours done. However, as someone else has pointed out, cost is a big factor...luckily we had help as it was part of my husbands work package, but before my husband got his latest job, we didn't make a will because of how expensive it all was. However, when I inherited after my Great Grandmother died, I wanted to make sure everything was sorted fairly with our children. It gave us peace of mind.

pinkspideruk · 20/09/2017 03:22

i got a will done t a reduced price via our union at work - its been done in the last 2 years and doesnt need updating - sadly we dont have a lot to leave - no property, very little jewellery etc

snare · 20/09/2017 06:39

We have a will and I shared the decisions with my family

cathryn1 · 20/09/2017 07:08

I haven't and really do need to get round to it, its just time rather than money

upthehammers · 20/09/2017 08:37

I've not got one yet but really should considering I'm a single parent with two small children. I often worry about what will happen to them if I died but have put off doing it due to costs and because I was told that even if I stipulated that I would want the children to be looked after by my sister they'd end up with their dad who's not in their lives.

greensmith68 · 20/09/2017 10:25

sad to say we don't have a will yet we keep talking about it but just haven't got round to it as yet

jacqroberts68 · 20/09/2017 13:15

I really need to do this and having lost my husband 10 years ago you'd think I'd know better?

robyn297 · 20/09/2017 14:23

I don't and its something I really need to look into, its just one of those things that we keep putting off. My husband has some time off in a few weeks and I think we should put it on the to do list.

molly57 · 20/09/2017 19:21

I had a will completed over 20 years ago as part of my divorce. It definitely needs to be revised.

daisyduck123 · 20/09/2017 20:21

Yes I have made a simple will with the forms that are available.
I went with my aunt to her solicitor to draft her will as it was much more complicated and really needed specialist advice.

clarabella12 · 20/09/2017 20:40

we need to do one, reading the comments here I'm thinking a mirror will would be best.

Signoritawhocansway · 20/09/2017 20:49

We've set up our will - we did it when we had DS1. We used a friend who is a will-writer. It was a reasonable cost, and he gave us very good advice.

lolamia91 · 20/09/2017 22:45

We are currently in the process of discussing things!

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Motherofterriers · 21/09/2017 19:28

I made a will when I separated from my husband, so that I could leave everything to my children not to him. The solicitor dealing with the divorce drew it up for me, no hassle.

Benone · 21/09/2017 21:58

We never quite manage to get ahead of ourselves long enough to get around to it. My brother in law died quite suddenly a few years back, so we should certainly know better, but there always seems to be some urgent crisis to resolve in the short term and thinking about the longer term is harder. We are the designated legal guardians for two of our nephews and have certainly thought about the issues, but not put it down in a will...

Maiyakat · 22/09/2017 14:44

I did my will through the Will Aid scheme, nice to know a charity was benefiting. However my will is very straightforward, if it were more complex I would have used a specialist lawyer outside of this scheme.