So, I have a 13 yo daughter. Quite bright. Lovely to the outside world. Is autistic. I am quite the expert (self taught. Also worked with teenagers for 25years) on paper. There is little I couldn’t tell you - but holy shitballs!
I’m really wanting to ask how other mums of girls have got through teenage years and whether it gets easier and when! Almost every engagement seems like she wants to throw down with me. Any positive experience will suddenly be plagued by her anxiety. She just about has some interests outside school (a musical instrument - she rarely practises); will walk or scoot (like quite well - tricks etc) with me; does one fitness season a week (with me). I know I am her safe person - but I am also in the same minute the person who she completely wants to blame for everything (which is oftentimes so unfair and feels like such a kick in the teeth because I literally shape my life around her!). She has a few friends in school - not sure how much they see each other outside of school, but they don’t see her and she doesn’t seem to want to. She often has issues with them (in her head - not external. Very sensitive).
I have a slightly younger son who struggles with her behaviour. My (defo ND) husband tries with her but she doesn’t really trust him like she does me and he has less patience and less experience of teens/ND teens.
I live in constant fear of her teaching burnout or hurting herself on some way - because of my role I know absolutely how hard life can be for ND teens and the ways in which they can react to their challenges
help! SOS.